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Originally Posted by Aquila
When I explained the situation he cried. I then told him that I was going to see her and to tell her goodbye. He immediately said that he wanted to go too. I explained that she wouldn't be conscious and he was still pretty insistent. But he's 7. Should I honor what he says that he wants? Personally, I see a learning opportunity with him. It also gives him a context to ask difficult questions he might not know how to ask. Questions about death, growing old, hospitals, etc. I think sheltering him from these things isn't going to really help. But that's my opinion.
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I agree he should be able to say goodbye. And I also agree it is better not to shelter children from this.
My point about saying goodbye over the phone is simply to try and meet your son's need while trying to comply with your ex's wishes. You could take a photo of her or a video and show it to him and let him say goodbye over the phone. It is the next best thing to what you want to do. And, I probably wouldn't mention it to your ex.
Just do it and then tell her you complied with her wishes he not be there. Sometimes it's better to ask forgiveness than permission. I wouldn't abuse that though either.
I'm more concerned about the relationship between you and your ex than your son's need to say goodbye. I think that relationship is a higher priority.