[rgcraig]

My kids were older - 16 and 19 when we went through the divorce.

The main problem with it all was the inconsistency from their dad. He was very, very hard on raising them and made it very clear that many things were "wrong".

So, after the divorce all that went out the window and now dad believed it was alright not to go to church or even that having a relationship with God was needed and smoking, drinking, affairs and living with women was all okay.

Just a year earlier he taught the high school SS class and had taught a series on the 10 commandments - - the lesson on adultery he taught to his own son and friends while he was in an adulterous relationship.

So, the inconsistency totally blew them away.