[Aquila]

Here's a problem. If we say that someone isn't born gay, then we say it is a "choice". Now, there is always a "choice" with relation to acting on our desires or impulses. However, there isn't always a choice in relation to what those desires and impulses are.

For example, I'm straight. I have always been straight. Women turn me on. Females have turned me on since my first glance at a lingerie add at about 11 years old. I couldn't "choose" to be gay if I wanted to, my body wouldn't "respond" with enough arousal response to even perform the act. So, being gay wouldn't be a choice for me. I'm be repulsed.

Gay people report something similar. They have always been gay. Since puberty the same gender turns them on. Many fight this impulse and live as straight people virtually forcing themselves to perform sexually with the opposite sex, even within the confines of a marriage. But the truth is, they are gay and always have been.

Sexologists tell us that sexuality is a spectrum and most people fall somewhere in between being 100% straight or 100% gay. But as you get to each side of the spectrum it becomes less and less likely that one will respond to sexual stimuli from the opposite end of the spectrum. However, in the areas of the spectrum closer to the middle, a person is more likely to respond to either gender sexually, indicating a greater propensity for bisexuality. Dead center would be 100% bisexual, meaning one could freely choose either male or female with the same level of preference and satisfaction. Thus the only people that could conceive of one's sexuality being a choice are those who are... closer to the bisexual area (or middle) of the spectrum.

That's why I tend to laugh at people who insist that it is a choice. Because clearly in their minds such a choice is possible. In a way, they're telling on themselves. LOL!