If she actually informed and did not just answer the Pastor's question then there is no doubt in my mind she had displaced loyalty issues. While I completely believe in honoring your pastor, her first obligation was to the vows she made before God to her husband. I just don't believe it was hers to tell. If she disagreed, she should have prayed that God would speak to her husband if He was displeased with his behavior. God could do the job without causing problems in their relationship. For what it's worth....