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Originally Posted by revrandy
HO...Changing churches is not always the answer...
Communicate with him would be my suggestion... it may make all the difference in the world....
to simply switch is ufair to both of you...
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My reason isn't because of standard issues, especially since I'd be attending another UPC church.
There are several things going on. Nothing salvational, but things that are disturbing me. I guess it was because of how I was raised.
Just to mention one of those things....
He compares himself and the church to other pastors and their churches. If they do something that is working to make their churches better and bring people in, he wants to try it on his church.
Now, I'm not totally against that, but in doing that, he is often implementing new ideas and changing things. For me, it's quite confusing.
One of those things is involving children in almost everything. He has all the children who ride the bus eat breakfast when they arrive. This means they are late to service and walk in for about 15 minutes. To me, this is very distracting.
After he sings a few songs, he has people come to get prayed for. He calls the children up (keep in mind that most of them are bus kids who's parents don't attend and never have) to pray for people. This is a good idea if there were adults to guide the children. Instead, it looks like a zoo up there, and very disorganized. The kids just don't know what to do.
He has the kids line up in the front of the church and sing 'I am a Friend of God'. This is very cool and I really enjoy it. He passes the mic around and the kids take turns singing in it. This is very special and the kids behave while doing this.
He now has started doing a skit that lasts for about 5-10 minutes involving adults and a topic that is over the kids' heads. He did this last week for the first time and when the kids clapped, along with a few adults, he admonished them for it, stating that it was very serious and not something to be clapped for. What else are kids supposed to do after a skit?
The kids are in the sanctuary for about an hour before being dismissed to their classes. By this time, there are kids laying on the floor from boredom, and they are allowed to go in and out without anyone directing them. I have found kids in the kitchen looking for something additional to eat as there are no adults down there and nobody is tracking them to make sure they are only going to the bathroom or whatever.
It's getting to the point where I don't even want to go to SS anymore. I can't take the distractions. When I was in church as a child, I was taught respect and there was no way I would leave the sanctuary for any reason without my mother. The ushers wouldn't let me anyway.
As I said, this is just one of several issues that bother me.