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Old 07-16-2008, 10:44 AM
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Re: Is divorce a sin if no one was unfaithful?

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Originally Posted by Michlow View Post
Now this is a subject near and dear to my heart

I say that only half joking. Most of you know that my marital situation is far from ideal. Most of it is due to my husband having Asperger's syndrome.

It's not something he can help. There is no fix, or cure for it. It just is, what it is. Because he cannot really socially relate to other people, we will never have that kind of intimacy or connection that should exist in a marriage. Since his asperger's causes him to have limited and focused interests, we really have no common interests and very little to discuss. And as his condition also causes problems with employement, I continue to be the sole provider, and well, quite frankly, I do everything.

I think if he were a little more able to care for himself that we most likely wouldn't still be together. But I feel responsbile him. (Not to mention as I have supported him the bulk of our time together, with my luck I would end up having to pay him alimony).

The way I look at it, If I am going to have to support him, I might as well have him around to do the heavy lifting.

But I can't lie, I do occasionally daydream about being swept off my feet, or running away from it all.
Is this where the "in sickness and in health" part of your marriage vows comes in?

I can't say that I know where you're coming from because I haven't walked in your shoes. I can say that I understand the daydreaming because I stayed married for 19 years to one whose interpretation of our marriage vows was much different than mine.
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