[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by tstew

One thing that has been instilled in me is that it is impossible to truly discipline in an undisciplined way. My father believed that, lived that, and practiced that...(my mother, not so much). Either way, when I see parents hitting their children out of frustration, without being in control of their emotions, or as a impulsive reaction I cringe. In those cases it may be argued that you are teaching your children to hit for the wrong reasons. When I was growing up, corporal punishment was administered as if it were the result of a court martial, not in frustration, not undisciplined, not in the heat of the moment, and always after it was understood by me why it was necessary.

This is really the only fair way to spank, IMO, but unfortunately for the two bleeding-heart parents in this house, by the time we've thought about it, we've come up with another way to administer "natural consequences"--because both of us hate to spank. LOL!!!

Although, when my girls ran away for a "Big Adventure" a couple of summers back, and we had to call the Sheriff to track their tick-covered, muddy, tired, LOST hineys down...my husband wasn't going to spank them for it, and I INSISTED on it!