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Originally Posted by andrea238
I just would like some feedback and opinion on what do you do if you find your spouse looking at graphic pornography on the internet more than once. Thanks for all the input.
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Wise counseling is probably the best route, overaction is the most common and damaging response. Do not cast the spouse aside as some evil person, this is one of most powerful arguments against having the internet in our houses.
However, if handled carefully and lovingly it is an opportunity for one with the propensity for porn addiction to find forgiveness, understanding and healing. Which should be the best and desired end.
We live in a broken and fallen world, mature and Godly relationships require hard work, some folks lack the foundation to build on, and therefore default to carnal and fleshly fulfillment. Self stimulation thru porn is the easy default from the hard work of a fulfilling and satisfing relationship with one's spouse. Usually there is baggage on both sides to make it difficult, this does not make the other spouse responsible, it is simply a fact.
If both are not willing or able to do the foundation building, the result is further brokeness, guilt and shame.