[DAII]

Groce brought standards into the discussion in his "memorial", Dana.

Though her appearance was pleasant, she was never anything of a "beauty", at least, not in the way the world sees it. Her appearance was modest in every way (1 Timothy 2:9). She would never use fine clothes, sparkling jewelry or makeup to draw undo attention to herself. But her outward appearance always reflected the beauty of character that all who knew her saw clearly. The "ornament of a meek and quiet spirit" (1 Peter 3:4) was to her the best jewelry and makeup she could possibly wear.

The implication one is not virtuous if one "fixes" herself up or even wears fine clothes.

You are blaming the messengers ... T.