[Ferd]

Originally Posted by Jeffrey

Have you no mercy?

Owning to his actions? Explain. Let's hypothetically say you aren't a cynic with the guy and you actually believe him. He's been in this church since knee high to a grass hopper. He becomes a "leader" (could be Sunday School teacher, youth leader -- anything). He realizes some things don't add up and he leaves. He's been part of this culture his entire life but only now is on the receiving end of pure ungodliness. He is shocked.

You come along and yell at his to "own up?"

Lovely.

pssst.... been there done that got the t-shirt.

When you leave, expect the hit. You leave because you BELIEVE that the change in biblical and necessary. But you take responsiblity for yourself.