There are several issues making this difficult for me to just join:
(1) Healing Offerings- "You can't buy God's miracles, but just like the blind man had to go and wash a the Pool of Siloam, you're gonna have to do something too..... God will honor your obedience and sacrifice.... That little bit of money will mean nothing to you if you ever get sick and need the Lord to heal you...."
The above statements were made just today in service, justifying the "Healing Offering", separate from the regular tithes/offering.
(2) Healing Scriptures quoted between every song (MANDATED)- It's his church, as in he's the Pastor. So if this is what he wants, so be it, right? So why do I have a problem with this? Am I just being too critical?
(3) Respect- Sometimes, because of our past, I have to check my nasty attitude at the door before going into my Dad's church. When he prayed for me at the altar today, I found myself having to fight to concentrate on my prayer-- instead of the thoughts that flooded my mind like "man, this guy is a joke" and thoughts similar to this.
I do not disrespect my Dad-- at all. In fact, I left home to ensure that I wouldn't. But even now at 31, I still have to fight the thoughts that would cause me to have a "superior" attitude towards him. I know that attitude should not be there and I rebuke it when it comes.
I love my Dad and need my Dad. But because of our horrible history, I still get these bad thoughts from time to time. Does it mean that I haven't forgiven him yet?
Should I join his church again?
He sure could use the members too-- about 25 of us on a good day.
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It sounds to me like it would be better for both your spiritual life and your family life if you attended church elsewhere and just enjoyed your dad being your dad and not your spiritual shepherd.
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"We did not wear uniforms. The lady workers dressed in the current fashions of the day, ...silks...satins...jewels or whatever they happened to possess. They were very smartly turned out, so that they made an impressive appearance on the streets where a large part of our work was conducted in the early years.
"It was not until long after, when former Holiness preachers had become part of us, that strict plainness of dress began to be taught.
"Although Entire Sanctification was preached at the beginning of the Movement, it was from a Wesleyan viewpoint, and had in it very little of the later Holiness Movement characteristics. Nothing was ever said about apparel, for everyone was so taken up with the Lord that mode of dress seemingly never occurred to any of us."
Quote from Ethel Goss (widow of 1st UPC Gen Supt. Howard Goss) book "The Winds of God"
It sounds to me like it would be better for both your spiritual life and your family life if you attended church elsewhere and just enjoyed your dad being your dad and not your spiritual shepherd.
I agree for what it's worth.
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It sounds to me like it would be better for both your spiritual life and your family life if you attended church elsewhere and just enjoyed your dad being your dad and not your spiritual shepherd.
I agree. Those churches of 25 - 50 run by and attended by family are a hotbed of dysfuntion and church trouble.
I would have to agree with this too. Although I have never attended a small church like this I have seen many of them and they have been very dysfunctional.
It sounds to me like it would be better for both your spiritual life and your family life if you attended church elsewhere and just enjoyed your dad being your dad and not your spiritual shepherd.
I have to say I concur with CC1 on this. I had to leave my brothers church and it took doing that for he and I to learn to respect and appreciate each other. Now 16 years later I think I could go back to him as my pastor and it would probably be good for both of us. But it took a few years for us to come to this point.
Only knowing what you've told us in your post, I'd agree with CC1 and Tstew. Given the feelings and hindrances you have with attending church with your Dad, it seems like you'd be happier and more effectively involved with another body of believers. You feeling comfortable being plugged into ministry and being effective in God's will is what's most important 1399.
I agree with your misgivings on the "healing offerings". I could go several different directions with that type of thing, but the most important thing is giving isn't a prerequisite for obtaining healing according to scriptures. Obedience was many times, but to my recollection none of those cases involved monetary obedience. That's completely shakey ground to me.
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Re: Should I "rejoin" my Dad's Church?
Hybrid Mode
