So Sexy Isn't Offensive?

Bro. Robbins · #1 06-15-2012, 09:53 AM

In my office we have a unique blend of folks. Many different departments share this floor, as we are part of a University and Medical Center of over 23,000 employees.

We do have a dress code, but in an organization this large, policing and enforcement is quite difficult if a supervisor or manager chooses to look the other way.

There are many times I am offended by what others wear... men and women... and I overlook it. But while getting coffee this morning, I just couldn't look past what I saw. A sheer blouse that was almost see through. With dress shorts, that were the length of hot pants.... top of the thigh. And they were somewhat baggy, so that when the young lady sits down, the whole world is her gynecologist.

I approached her supervisor (which is what we are told to do in cases like this) and mentioned that the employee's outfit was offensive. Her response was, "I don't see what's offensive. It's sexy, but not offensive."

I was in shock... I said, "Sexy is Offensive!!!!". But even beyond that, the work place is no place for sexy. I provided a copy of the dress code in black and white and said, no matter your opinion or mine, this is a violation of the rules.

But I couldn't believe my ears.... so people don't think sexy is offensive anymore????? I was raised that "sexy" is for private.... not public.

RandyWayne · #2 06-15-2012, 10:17 AM

I find "sexy", in public, to be far more distracting that necessarily offensive. Besides, what is considered "sexy" and what is not is one of the most subjective areas a person can have an opinion on, bar none.

As I think about this more..... Once something does cross the line from distracting to offensive, it is no longer "sexy" anyways. Often it becomes laughable as I think of all of the "people of walmart" photos I have seen.

rgcraig · #3 06-15-2012, 10:31 AM

It's just stupid to dress like that for work. Her manager should be held accountable.

I agree with Randy, at that point, it's no longer sexy, but inappropriate for business dress (even casual Friday).

Nitehawk013 · #4 06-15-2012, 10:36 AM

It really all depends on who is wearing the outfit. I mean does she look like Jennifer Aniston or Betty White? If she looks like Jennifer Aniston or such then I wouldn't say it was necessarily offensive, but if she wa slike Betty White, or if she was a really really large woman...then it would be offensive.

LOL.

Cindy · #5 06-15-2012, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Nitehawk013

It really all depends on who is wearing the outfit. I mean does she look like Jennifer Aniston or Betty White? If she looks like Jennifer Aniston or such then I wouldn't say it was necessarily offensive, but if she wa slike Betty White, or if she was a really really large woman...then it would be offensive.

LOL.

crakjak · #6 06-15-2012, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Nitehawk013

It really all depends on who is wearing the outfit. I mean does she look like Jennifer Aniston or Betty White? If she looks like Jennifer Aniston or such then I wouldn't say it was necessarily offensive, but if she wa slike Betty White, or if she was a really really large woman...then it would be offensive.

LOL.

You must be a man? So, if it really is sexy, it is not offensive, it is eye candy???

Bro. Robbins · #7 06-15-2012, 10:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Nitehawk013

It really all depends on who is wearing the outfit. I mean does she look like Jennifer Aniston or Betty White? If she looks like Jennifer Aniston or such then I wouldn't say it was necessarily offensive, but if she wa slike Betty White, or if she was a really really large woman...then it would be offensive.

LOL.

And though you might have meant that in jest.... it is this very attitude in our society...even by church people that shows how far we have strayed from modesty. Doesn't matter how hot or not she is... when someone is attempting to be sexy in their public dress, it is offensive to me.... and the fact that some think dressy "sexy" for work... no matter what you look like is absolutely amazing.

We've become way too casual in our society, and lost modesty. Just the fact that you think even saying that in jest.... is a sad indication just how casual we've become in this world..... to our detriment.

Amanah · #8 06-15-2012, 10:46 AM

Sounds like she was being "sexy" in the revolting way that a hooker might be considered by some to be "sexy;" and while it might be initially distracting for someone of the male gender, hopefully a HG filled man might find it inappropriate and certainly incompatible for office attire.

rgcraig · #9 06-15-2012, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Amanah

Sounds like she was being "sexy" in the revolting way that a hooker might be considered by some to be "sexy;" and while it might be initially distracting for someone of the male gender, hopefully a HG filled man might find it inappropriate and certainly incompatible for office attire.

It's inappropriate by the dress code whether they are filled with the HG or not.

RandyWayne · #10 06-15-2012, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Amanah

Sounds like she was being "sexy" in the revolting way that a hooker might be considered by some to be "sexy;" and while it might be initially distracting for someone of the male gender, hopefully a HG filled man might find it inappropriate and certainly incompatible for office attire.

Maybe, but again to me once "sexy" crosses a line toward being "offensive" it is no longer sexy. So I would never use those two words to describe the same person at the same time.

And God DID grant some people assets above and beyond what He granted others. There are a few women here who would have to wear a snowmobile suit to not be distracting.... does that mean they are obligated too?

Oh how I miss Rhoni in some of these discussions. LOL