Prominent Memphis Area Pastor Resigns

[tv1a]

You couldn't leave it alone? lol

Originally Posted by CC1

What made you think he did it voluntarily?

[deacon blues]

Originally Posted by LooneyLucy

True, however, the Bible says for men to love their wives as Christ loved the church. In most instances if the man does this, everything else falls into place, unless the woman is just a spoiled brat or has mental problems.

The same scripture Eph 5:33 says the woman must respect her husband. "Love and Respect" by Eggerich is one of the best books on understanding the differences between men and women I've ever read. Unconditional love is commanded to men, unconditional respect is commanded to women. It takes both parties being obedient to the commands God gives them.

[LooneyLucy]

Originally Posted by deacon blues

The same scripture Eph 5:33 says the woman must respect her husband. "Love and Respect" by Eggerich is one of the best books on understanding the differences between men and women I've ever read. Unconditional love is commanded to men, unconditional respect is commanded to women. It takes both parties being obedient to the commands God gives them.

But it ALL begins with the MAN.

[deacon blues]

Originally Posted by HolyFire

I lived in the Memphis area for a decade, this hurts. Grey Rd. is no more (used to run 350+), the W. Memphis church has left the UPCI (I believe, I know they are ultra-libs compared to my decade there when they were mods) and now this. Terry Black was one of those men you could follow after as he followed Christ. He was a humble man, one who wasn't covetous or heavy handed or unmerciful.

This is hard for me, the area I prayed for so often in a spiritual storm. TPC will survive and God will have a church.

Memphis is full of many good, godly, faithful Christians. This situation is sad as well as the Grey Road situation, but Jesus has plenty of witnesses and churches that preach Christ and Him crucified and the truth will keep marching on. Pray for the fallen, consider yourself lest you fall, do justly, love mercy and walk humbly with your God!

[Jay]

Does anyone on here know what actually happened, because I see assertions made with no links or messages. I read the wiki link, but found it to be less than helpful. I am going to be content to wait and find out from others what happened with Bro. Black.

[Raven]

Originally Posted by The Lemon

Sometimes the "connection" is not made (or not consistant) because they are out of balance in their life.

I know of some 20+ year marriages that have failed - both ministers and others, one thing I noticed in the ministry was burnout - when a person gives constantly in ministry and has nothing left for the home...guess what suffers??

I can't tell you how many times I have heard of ministers wives who are depressed, and despise not only their respective role in ministry, but also their husband and even the church - the same can be true of the husband. When there is no "coming together" and no deep emotional connection between spouses...there is a great storm coming..PERIOD.

No wonder Paul said he would prefer folks to be like him. After all, when you marry, a husbands duty is to please his wife, and the wife her husband....you can't do this as an absentee husband / wife / or father. The way we "do church" is half the problem in my opinion.. and that goes from the top down. Here is a noval idea:

1. Stop running a Church like a profit center
2. Make a living using skills and education outside the ministry - thus preventing the survival temptation to live off of people's free will generosity
3. Don't train saints to expect you to be there at every bekon call
4. Set the stage for personal growth and accountability and quit coddling saints for 30 years on the pew
5. Stay out of the politics in organized religion...politics is bad regardless of where it is
6. Don't play to the crowd and to your peer group...be you and be honest
7. Stick to principle and drop tradition where you can
8. Don't try to protect your image...just be a Christian
9. Preach the truth in love
10. Prefer your wife and children over other people, organizations, expectations.


There...

Excellent advice!!!

[Monterrey]

Originally Posted by LooneyLucy

I'm guessing you're a youngin. I could make a huge long list of names. There are MANY!!!! Daddy or grandpa carved out the church and the kids now live in HIGH style and always have.

This made my day!!!!

I am a grey haired grandpa and you called me young!

Do I slip you an extra five or some geratol?

[Monterrey]

Granny!

[Tlswift2009]

Amen sister. I know this Pastor as a friend, but I ask no questions; I just pray for the church and pastor.

[deacon blues]

Originally Posted by LooneyLucy

But it ALL begins with the MAN.

Actually is ALL begins with God.

The problem is too many believe in the 50/50 myth, as in "marriage is a 50/50 proposition." Actually marriage is an ALL IN proposition. Each partner should give 100%, regardless of what the other does. Peter even writes "Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives." So when a husband isn't leading the way, the command is still tomb respectful, and in so doing the husband may be won over.