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[KeptByTheWord]

Originally Posted by navygoat1998

Too much work to have a wife and a girlfriend! Plus I got it bad for my wife............ she is my Charismatic cutie

That's awesome

I didn't write the above to somehow get the men on here confessing, or professing its truth....

I wrote the above, to encourage women to have a clearer understanding of how a man's physical needs work.

One of the ways a woman can help a man in this area, is if a wife will allow her husband to be honest with her, and share his personal struggles with the "eye lust". It really is nothing against her personally, but just part of his natural, God-given makeup. For if a man can talk honestly about such things with his wife, it will go a long way in alleviating the chances he will give in to such desires.

[navygoat1998]

Originally Posted by KeptByTheWord

That's awesome

I didn't write the above to somehow get the men on here confessing, or professing its truth....

I wrote the above, to encourage women to have a clearer understanding of how a man's physical needs work.

One of the ways a woman can help a man in this area, is if a wife will allow her husband to be honest with her, and share his personal struggles with the "eye lust". It really is nothing against her personally, but just part of his natural, God-given makeup. For if a man can talk honestly about such things with his wife, it will go a long way in alleviating the chances he will give in to such desires.

I would highly reccomend the book "Everyman's Battle" written by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker. It talks about this very subject. My wife got it for me and we both read it.

[AreYouReady?]

Kept by the Word, as always, you can explain things so well...in a way that I cannot seem to find the right words for.

I often wondered why and how Solomon interacted with 700 wives and concubines. The thought ....seems impossible to me.

[houston]

Originally Posted by navygoat1998

I would highly reccomend the book "Everyman's Battle" written by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker. It talks about this very subject. My wife got it for me and we both read it.

I had a copy of that. Passed it on to my 16 yr old buddy. Had his dad go through it first. Dad approved.

[BeenThinkin]

Originally Posted by KeptByTheWord

What you are speaking of, AYR, is a problem that has plagued men since Adam, I believe. David with all his wives, still committed adultery with Bathsheba. I'm sure he had beautiful wives that he could have stayed with. So why did his heart desire Bathsheba? Why did Solomon with all his wives, still keep acquiring more? Why wasn't he satisfied with one?

I think it is the allure/lust of having something that is not yours to have. I think all men struggle with it, for some reason.

My husband has worked with men who have shared that they have a wife at home, whom they love dearly, speak highly of, and would fight to the death for her... yet, keep a girlfriend on the side "for fun". They speak highly of their wife, love her and their children dearly, and yet live a double life? Why is this?

I don't know that I have the answers.... it must be a deep dark secret in the hearts of men... but you are right, AYR, it is an issue that no doubt every man must deal with, because it happens so often, and to so many good men too.

As a woman, I can't understand or comprehend such a thing ... but being married to a man, and understanding, and seeing the nature of a man's sex drive and the physical nature of it... as opposed to my female nature with it being more emotional... I can see where a man can easily separate the two, and love his wife with all his heart emotionally, yet desire another woman physically. ?? It apparently is something that all red-blooded men have to live with, and fight.

That physical desire that males have, I believe, must come under the spirit of Christ, and die a daily death... in order to live a moral, holy life. Without the help of Christ in this area of their life.... all men are subject to the sins of immorality, if they give in to its daily, or even moment by moment temptations.

And it behooves all of us married women to understand this in a man, and be willing to accomodate our husband's physical needs even when emotionally, we may not be in the same place.

I liken a man's physical sexual need to basically the same need for food, water, and air. When a woman begins to understand these things, she will have the tools she needs to help protect her marriage, and hopefully prevent another woman from providing for the physical sexual needs of her husband.

KeptByTheWord, you're awesome. You said this so well and I would encourage all the men on AFF to read it. But, I would really encourage all of the ladies here to read it and take it to heart. Keep your man happy at home, (especially sexually), and if he has any sense he will look forward to coming home and being with his wife. I must confess, I've been sleeping with mine for over 50 years now and she is still beautiful, sexual and a fabulous cook. And by the way, she walks on her treadmill 30 minutes every morning. (It's not any of your business as to whether I walk 30 minutes each day!!!) And by the way I can still wear the same necktie I wore when we got married!!! ).

Again KeptByTheWord, .

Been Thinkin

[AreYouReady?]

...and Brother Been Thin King, you are awesome for loving your wife for 50 years and thinking she is the most beautiful, sexual and a fabulous cook!

But I only have one problem with you...you chose to tell us that she walks her treadmill and won't reveal if you walk the plank or not?

[houston]

Originally Posted by AreYouReady?

...and Brother Been Thin...

Past tense is absolutely right!

[BeenThinkin]

Originally Posted by AreYouReady?

...and Brother Been Thin King, you are awesome for loving your wife for 50 years and thinking she is the most beautiful, sexual and a fabulous cook!

But I only have one problem with you...you chose to tell us that she walks her treadmill and won't reveal if you walk the plank or not?

Now a Pastor doesn't have to reveal everything! JUST KIDDING!!!!!!

And Houston, when you've been married 50 years you don't have to do as much thinkin'... if you know what I mean! And if you don't, ask me and I'll be happy to tell.

Been Thinkin

[navygoat1998]

Originally Posted by BeenThinkin

Now a Pastor doesn't have to reveal everything! JUST KIDDING!!!!!!

And Houston, when you've been married 50 years you don't have to do as much thinkin'... if you know what I mean! And if you don't, ask me and I'll be happy to tell.

Been Thinkin

[houston]

Originally Posted by BeenThinkin

Now a Pastor doesn't have to reveal everything! JUST KIDDING!!!!!!

And Houston, when you've been married 50 years you don't have to do as much thinkin'... if you know what I mean! And if you don't, ask me and I'll be happy to tell.

Been Thinkin

It was a reference to your wait.