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Originally Posted by Aquila
True. I have a girl that I've been seeing. We're both divorcees and had considered marriage. But the more and more I think about it... the more and more I don't think I want to remarry. Yes, this could be a deal breaker on her side, and understandably so. I don't like the drama of relationships. I like being able to do what I enjoy. I like a nice quiet home. I like to read and study my Bible for hours on end if I want to. I like the quiet times of prayer. I'm finding myself increasingly unhappy.
So... I'm curious. How do those Christians who have chosen a single lifestyle cope with the issues I listed above?
loneliness
fighting temptation
masturbation
pornography
How do single Christians overcome loneliness?
How does a single Christian find a healthy single sexuality in Christ? Is there such a thing? I ask this from deep down in my heart because not only would these be issues I'd admittedly face... but certainly these are issues that every single Christian might face.
So I need some of your thoughts.
Thanks,
Chris |
Yes, any of us can face being single at any time in our life.
I was single for 4 years after my divorce from my first husband. I would go to church and see what I thought were happy families...then watch them go home for their own fellowship while I went home to an empty dwelling place. As a young female at that time, I had many instances where temptations were very powerful. But I found that one pearl (Christ) meant more to me than all the temptations.
So....what does one do about loneliness, which was what I faced daily. I found places to go, friends to pass the time with. I was still very young and wanted a family of my own. So I asked God that if it was His blessings to send a mate to me. Sounds corny right? But I got specific and it wasn't too very long that the perfect mate came into my life....right to my specifications. Looks and money were not part of the specifications, but rather love for Christ, temperment, patience, in other words, fruit of the Spirit were more the specifications than the worldy things. We are well into our 29th year together now. He just kind of came into my life. I did not have to go looking.
God is not without feeling, nor does he dismiss our feelings when we are sincere. Don't be afraid to tell him about yourself and how you feel. You will find that He does understand. Don't be afraid of marriage, whether secular or Quaker unless you just feel you might not actually get along.
Whatever the case, talking to God will net you some real results about this dilemma.
Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
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I Peter 5:7)
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