To My Porn-Watching Dad, From Your Daughter

[good samaritan]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

He has a God given responsibility to protect her life, especially in what would shape her character. A girl or young woman will, for the most part, view men through the same lens she sees her father.

And she took responsibility for her life by forgiving him and marrying a man that was not like him.

To say her father's actions didn't affect her in some ways is a huge oversight.

It is good to move on and not dwell in the past. Love your dad because you are bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh. Venting out frustration usually does far much more harm then good. If anything it should be a private conversation between you and him personally, and be prepared that it may not bring the results that you desire. Only God can heal old wounds and words can create new ones..

[Reader]

Pressing On didn't write that to her dad- she passed along something written by someone else.

[BrotherEastman]

Originally Posted by Reader

Pressing On didn't write that to her dad- she passed along something written by someone else.

Just so we are clear, I knew that, I read the link.

[n david]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

He has a God given responsibility to protect her life, especially in what would shape her character. A girl or young woman will, for the most part, view men through the same lens she sees her father.

And she took responsibility for her life by forgiving him and marrying a man that was not like him.

To say her father's actions didn't affect her in some ways is a huge oversight.

[good samaritan]

Sorry pressing on for misunderstanding. I agree in the harm of porn and the points the letter made, but it seemed a little immature on behalf of the writer.

[BrotherEastman]

I do think the link that PO shared could be utilized as an object lesson for men though.

[crakjak]

Improper attraction is virtually every man's battle, that it is very hard for most women to understand. But maturity and understanding for both, can bring harmony in marriage.

Would you really want a husband that was not attracted to women?

Of course, when the husband comes to understand that, to act on that attraction improperly is very harmful to himself, and those he loves the most!!

So ladies cut him some slack, but hold him accountable, and love him in so many ways that he has nothing left for outside of your relationship!!! Yep, everybody wins!!! Heh, Heh!!!

[good samaritan]

Originally Posted by crakjak

Improper attraction is virtually every man's battle, that it is very hard for most women to understand. But maturity and understanding for both, can bring harmony in marriage.

Would you really want a husband that was not attracted to women?

Of course, when the husband comes to understand that, to act on that attraction improperly is very harmful to himself, and those he loves the most!!

So ladies cut him some slack, but hold him accountable, and love him in so many ways that he has nothing left for outside of your relationship!!! Yep, everybody wins!!! Heh, Heh!!!

good post.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by good samaritan

Sorry pressing on for misunderstanding. I agree in the harm of porn and the points the letter made, but it seemed a little immature on behalf of the writer.

Not a problem. And I didn't think it was immature on the writer's behalf to share a traumatic experience that began as a "12 year old" stumbling on her father's computer porn. How awfully shocking!

Originally Posted by BrotherEastman

I do think the link that PO shared could be utilized as an object lesson for men though.

I agree. I know a couple who went for counseling because of her husband's horrible porn addiction. He was so obsessed that he would look at the lingerie section of her mail-order catalogs - JC Penny, Dillards, etc.

Anyway, the interesting part of the counseling is that the husband was instructed to make a list of EVERYTHING that had a sexual message for him from the time he left the house for work until he got home - billboards, magazines at grocery checkout, etc.

The counselor said, "I want you to be aware of what society is doing to our men so that you can help me fight this."

So, that is why I do not in anyway think the daughter was immature to post the letter.

Men can keep putting on the mantra - "Boys will be boys" and "Cut him some slack." But, please note that in Deut 22:20 if a woman was found NOT to be a virgin, she was brought to her "father's doorstep" and stoned. Not outside the camp or at the city gate, but to her father. He is and should be her principle protector. Men should take that roll much more seriously than they do today.

[good samaritan]

Here is the thing I know that pornography will destroy a marriage and that would defnitely effect the children. If the man has been a good father overall in his children's life, but has a dirty secret that he isn't proud of then I think the daughter should cut him some slack(he is wrong). If he is some pervert that is doing things openly in his home and has no guilt then that would be diferent. I didn't get that impression from the letter.

You made a good point about what society is doing to are men. You can't watch a movie no matter what it is rated without some ladies cleavage hanging out or some tight form fitting clothes. The billboards and sale papers are full of models posing in little to no clothes (I usually just give my wife the ads out of the paper right off because so much in there isn't anything I need to see). Many women across this nation do things to promote themselves and then men are left holding the bag and are made to be some horrible pervert.

To be clear, fornication of any kind is a sin and will destroy your life and soul. Men need to do their part and keep their body under subjection, but ladies should think twice before getting ready every day. That is why immodesty should be viewed on the same level as lust. So many women are running around trying to look attractive and competing with one another while men are horrible because how it affects them.

This is a two way street and neither side is innocent. Let God be right and every man a liar.