People seem to think that everything is right or wrong.... When in reality, the motivation and heart behind why you are doing something is far more important. If you are asking if <insert whatever subject you like> is a heaven or hell issue... chances are very good you shouldnt be doing it.... The question should NEVER be will God forgive me for doing this or can I do this and still get into heaven.
The question should be does me doing this glorify God? Does it show others that Christ is working in me? Could it cause someone else to sin? If I do this am I being an example to others watching?
I'm not saying that anyone is perfect at doing this, but if we did it more often instead of making excuses like "God will forgive me for getting angry with my brother" instead of "I will show mercy and forgive my brother who has slighted me" (an example) think of the witness we could be...
The question shouldn't be "what is the bare minimum I can give and still be holy in God's or my pastor's or my eyes" but "am I doing everything I can to grow in my knowledge of God and take the relationship I have with him to another level."
"What is the bare minimum I can give to the homeless man and seem generous" or "What do I have in my wallet... 10... 20... 100.... do I NEED it?"
It comes down to love... if you claim to love God you shouldn't question how little you can do... but how much can you do?
Love says I will sacrifice for another. I will decrease so he can increase. I will set aside judgement and be merciful. I will forgive even if someone else doesn't forgive me. The bible does not call for quid pro quo... it calls for sacrifice... obedience... and above all LOVE.
1 Corinthians 13:1-8
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not LOVE, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not LOVE, I am nothing.And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not LOVE, it profiteth me nothing. LOVE suffereth long, and is kind; LOVE envieth not; LOVE vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. LOVE never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
(I added all caps for Love and changed charity to love as that is what the verse means)