Children of Lost Parents and Standards?

[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

This is a true story and this sadly happened, there was a child in a beginners SS class whose parents were not saved.The child came to the SS class wearing earrings and the SS.teacher told her she couldn't come to the church wearing those ,well the child quit coming to SS.

I hope that teacher was dismissed.

Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

Sister I was referring to minors.

The church I attended would not have let the children do those things unless they(the parents, at least one of them) came to church too...as a matter of fact they had a school and they wanted parents to follow the rules even if they didn't come to church, but just to have their kids in the school...they were very afraid of negative influences, they did let down a bit on the school requirements, ,mainly I think because they needed the money....

[ForeverBlessed]

Originally Posted by originalsecretplace

This strikes a nerve with me.

We had a Bible school in the church basement. I wanted to go and had talked to my daughter and asked her to go with me. My daughter was in her late teens and decided she didn't want to wear skirts all the time. My take on it was that it wasn't and heaven or hell issue and that my relationship with my daughter was more important so I did not make a big deal of it. I carefully pick my battles and weigh issues.

I was really happy that my daughter was going to go to Bible school with me for many reasons not the least of which was that she was going to have the Word of God taught to her more in depth. There's nothing more powerful than the Spirit and the Word working together to make deep spiritual changes in a person's life. We went to Bible School and the pastor said that all women had to abide by the dress standard of no pants. My daughter wouldn't go back because of it. I was crushed.

I thought instilling the Word in a person's life was more important because that is a heaven or hell issue and a way to come to maturity in Christ. Dress standards are just not a way to mature someone in the Lord.

I like you think there is more to consider in a teens life. I agree with you..pick your battles… I have two girls who find it difficult to wear skirts all the time. I am not living w/same peer pressure they are in today's schools… I don’t think it is salvational issue… so when I found several years ago that my youngest changed her clothes when she got to school anyway (Thanks to most of her classmates being larger and handing down all their jeans) .. I sat down and explained it was worse for her to rebel against me.. I don’t want her hiding stuff from me… like you, my relationship with her is far more important… and I would never shun her from church..or allow a church to shut her out over pants. I would go somewhere else first.

I explained to her that God would never turn her away over a pair of pants…why should a church… and especially her mom. I explained until she sang in the adult choir, she could wear pants as long as they were modest. She sings in the youth choir from time to time… you don’t have to sign agreement for youth choir. I just keep her in church, in his presence and cultivate a walk with God.

One of my daughters has a lot of issues… emotional and otherwise… there are far too many things to be concerned with than a pair of pants.. I am more concerned about getting the basics of the Word of God in her… Then there is my oldest loves to stand out and loves to tell everyone about her God… she uses the attire to get others attention.. seriously.. and she gave a speech for her speech class where her first part of the speech was informing that nothing we can do can earn salvation… so her dress wasn’t part of her salvation…but then went on to talk about standards of life… including religion, career…. Right down to cops and uniforms on military… My hats off to her, but she is a totally different personality. She doesn't mind being different.

God made us all different and I wish that pastors and churches would figure out we all can’t be cookie cutter Christians.. and let people work out their own salvation on some things.

I think that we should be very careful who we shun or turn away because of a tradition of standards… the loss of souls is not worth it.

Originally Posted by ForeverBlessed

I like you think there is more to consider in a teens life. I agree with you..pick your battles… I have two girls who find it difficult to wear skirts all the time. I am not living w/same peer pressure they are in today's schools… I don’t think it is salvational issue… so when I found several years ago that my youngest changed her clothes when she got to school anyway (Thanks to most of her classmates being larger and handing down all their jeans) .. I sat down and explained it was worse for her to rebel against me.. I don’t want her hiding stuff from me… like you, my relationship with her is far more important… and I would never shun her from church..or allow a church to shut her out over pants. I would go somewhere else first.

I explained to her that God would never turn her away over a pair of pants…why should a church… and especially her mom. I explained until she sang in the adult choir, she could wear pants as long as they were modest. She sings in the youth choir from time to time… you don’t have to sign agreement for youth choir. I just keep her in church, in his presence and cultivate a walk with God.

One of my daughters has a lot of issues… emotional and otherwise… there are far too many things to be concerned with than a pair of pants.. I am more concerned about getting the basics of the Word of God in her… Then there is my oldest loves to stand out and loves to tell everyone about her God… she uses the attire to get others attention.. seriously.. and she gave a speech for her speech class where her first part of the speech was informing that nothing we can do can earn salvation… so her dress wasn’t part of her salvation…but then went on to talk about standards of life… including religion, career…. Right down to cops and uniforms on military… My hats off to her, but she is a totally different personality. She doesn't mind being different.

God made us all different and I wish that pastors and churches would figure out we all can’t be cookie cutter Christians.. and let people work out their own salvation on some things.

I think that we should be very careful who we shun or turn away because of a tradition of standards… the loss of souls is not worth it.

Sis your girls and you are just beautifullllll!

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by NightOwl

lol no to the first 2 and yes to the last lol

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whats interesting the mom that wouldnt let her daughter come over alot because of cable, now has cable herself

Sometimes us parents can not allow something now but in the future see it different.

[NightOwl]

Originally Posted by Truthseeker

Sometimes us parents can not allow something now but in the future see it different.

true

I have a 14 year old myself, so I know

that is 14 going on 24 lol

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by NightOwl

true

I have a 14 year old myself, so I know

that is 14 going on 24 lol

I was telling a brother wose wife is with child(I sound biblical, don't I) in so many words nothing more challenging the raising kids. All our inconsistencies come to the front that would have never been revealed before.

[NightOwl]

Originally Posted by Truthseeker

I was telling a brother wose wife is with child(I sound biblical, don't I) in so many words nothing more challenging the raising kids. All our inconsistencies come to the front that would have never been revealed before.

so true

[ForeverBlessed]

Originally Posted by Sister Truth Seeker

Sis your girls and you are just beautifullllll!

Thank you..