Nuggets from Neck on The Marriage Relationship

[Esther]

Originally Posted by 1399

Would 7 days of intimacy with one's spouse help the plight of the spouse who is becomming (or already is) more emotionally attached to someone other than their spouse?

Does intimacy help any of the disfunctions that can occur in marriage relationship?

What if you just stop liking your spouse-- you love them, wouldn't want to hurt them, but you're "tired" of them and you want them to go away....

Does 7 days of intimacy help that situation?

Originally Posted by Neck

First thing. Sex is intimate.... but it is not "Intimacy".

See this minister must have watched the the newly released movie "Fireproof".

Except he perverted the concept in the movie.

This pastor does not understand intimacy.

He should have instructed each couple for 7 days to refrain from negitive talk between each other.

Do not mention one negitive thing about your spouse, your work, your children or your extended family.

Spend time doing 1 thing each day that makes your spouses day easier.

Then the following Sunday he would not have needed to instruct any of the couples to have sex.

7 days of sex will not bring about intimacy.

It might cause more resentment in some of the ladies and some of the men...

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[Neck]

Originally Posted by aak1972

You must be a politician b/c you still havent given a direct answer. And for as a fetish hold on sodomy I will answer that gladly when you give me your definition. You are seemingly an intelligent person and very full of words but I notice you dont really say yes or no.

You are trying to define expression between a husband and wife as a wrong expression between every husband and wife.

Every relationship has it's intimate boundries.

I am not just an intelligent person, I care deeply about the heart, soul, mind and body of my lovely wife...

When two people care this deeply about each other.

Thier physical appearance and countenance will reflect it.

So many people in our circle and outside our circle do not believe that I am 44and my wife is 43.

If you were bold...... you should be asking how many on this forum understand that their spouse does not enjoy these acts?

Or does enjoy these acts?

Many things in a person's life.... does not have to be listed on some sin list not to enjoy them.

My wife gets sick when she eats seafood.

In our relationship of intimacy, would I ever take her to a joint that only serves seafood?

Would I ever force her to eat seafood?

Just because I enjoy it?

Would that somehow express or convey to me that she loves me more because she ate something that makes her sick?

In many ways you can sum the intimate relations between husband and wife with this real scripture.

To him that knoweth to good and doeth it not...To him it is sin!!!

In intimacy your spouse will share with you the boundries of good.

Then when good is good it is really good...

[Neck]

We have the right to the pursuit of happiness.

Many never hold on to it.

Because once they find it.

They stop pursuing happiness with their spouse.

It is the adventure of pursuit that many find attractive.

Then they fall when the pursuit is less about them and more about the person they have found.

To him that findeth a wife findeth a good thing...

Then to him that keepeth this good lady happy, to him will behold happiness.

[Scott Hutchinson]

Ok when does the book come out ?

[Ron]

Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

Ok when does the book come out ?

I would buy it!

[Scott Hutchinson]

Me too,Neck ought to write one.

[RandyWayne]

Originally Posted by Neck

You are trying to define expression between a husband and wife as a wrong expression between every husband and wife.

Every relationship has it's intimate boundries.

I am not just an intelligent person, I care deeply about the heart, soul, mind and body of my lovely wife...

When two people care this deeply about each other.

Thier physical appearance and countenance will reflect it.

So many people in our circle and outside our circle do not believe that I am 44and my wife is 43.

If you were bold...... you should be asking how many on this forum understand that their spouse does not enjoy these acts?

Or does enjoy these acts?

Many things in a person's life.... does not have to be listed on some sin list not to enjoy them.

My wife gets sick when she eats seafood.

In our relationship of intimacy, would I ever take her to a joint that only serves seafood?

Would I ever force her to eat seafood?

Just because I enjoy it?

Would that somehow express or convey to me that she loves me more because she ate something that makes her sick?

In many ways you can sum the intimate relations between husband and wife with this real scripture.

To him that knoweth to good and doeth it not...To him it is sin!!!

In intimacy your spouse will share with you the boundries of good.

Then when good is good it is really good...

While she doesn't exactly get sick when she eats seafood, my wife doesn't care for it much. Yet, she knows how much I like it and will often suggest we go somewhere that serves it because she knows how much I appreciate it. (Usually reserved for birthdays and such....)

This can also be carried over to many different aspects of the relationship........

[Neck]

Originally Posted by RandyWayne

While she doesn't exactly get sick when she eats seafood, my wife doesn't care for it much. Yet, she knows how much I like it and will often suggest we go somewhere that serves it because she knows how much I appreciate it. (Usually reserved for birthdays and such....)

This can also be carried over to many different aspects of the relationship........

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"I" might appreciate my wife wanting to make me happy.

What really makes "me" happy is knowing she is enjoying it too.

If we ever go out for that special time for me to enjoy seafood.

We spend the extra time to find a place where both of us can enjoy the food.

I enjoy going to Milw Brewers baseball games.

I go often with a good friend of mine.

But there are times she just wants to come and enjoy the game with me.

I make sure that I walk as far as it takes to get her favorite Ice Cream!

I "never" leave her out of the moment.....

[Neck]

Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

Me too,Neck ought to write one.

I am thinking about it......

[RandyWayne]

I'm feeling a bit like Dr. House right now with all the "sap" being spewed.