Has a minister ever hurt you?

[Evang.Benincasa]

Originally Posted by ILG

Obviously. it's how to deal with situations and go forward, but first, those situations must be named and the experiences validated as the experience and perception of the person telling it. Because all too often, people are told, what you experienced doesn't count, you are just a whiner, now please shut up so we can get on with our lives. For ONCE, a conservative posted a thread about hurts and asked people to please share them. WONDERFUL! For once, a conservative didn't say "Shut up and quit whining". So, let's listen to the valid perceptions of those telling the story as THEIR EXPERIENCE and THEIR HURT and let's allow healing to begin.

Christopher Hitchens has a little comment that he makes in his debates when he is debating Christians. He says, "Christians, see how much they love one another." Now, I understand where he is coming from, because religions kill their wounded. Now, I said religions because hurt and offence is not an exclusive thing which Apostolic Pentecostal Christianity corners the market on.

Every religion, and group that has people involved in it has its share of hurt feelings. Listen Sister, try joining a motorcycle club, if you're a prospect they put you through all kinds of tribulation before you get a patch. Yet, there are people who are wanting to join a motorcycle club. Why? because that is what they are into. Now with religion, people are still joining the Watchtower, the LDS, Unification Church, House of Yahweh, Roman Catholicism, and some Christians still convert to Orthodox Judaism. We may sit back and scratch our heads, but the people who go off and get involved in cults, and strange religions do it because they have found something in that particular religion that meets with their approval. They will go through all kinds of hardship and pain and suffering to stay in these groups. They will separate from family members for these groups. Give up spouses and children for these groups.
We on the outside looking in think, "how in the world do they put up with that?" They do. Now, I said all that to say this, how can we be in a religion all this time and all of a sudden wake up one morning with an offence?

This doesn't come out of the clear blue, and bam, I was hurt by the preacher. First, where are we at when we are having these offences happen? Where are we spiritually? I teach that we have to get over these things. I mean if you are still talking about a situation when a preacher preached from the pulpit and peeled your scalp back, and you felt like you were going to crawl in a hole and die, and you still feel upset about that, then something has gone very wrong. That wrong no longer has anything to do with the preacher. It has all to do with us. You have no control over anyone, of what they say, of what they do, or how they behave. You only have control over you. If we get hurt, we need to first look inward to find out why are we feeling this way. Is it warranted? Should I be upset, and hurt? Or did the other individual drill a nerve? Hey, a stepped on toe hurts.

People endure all kinds of lunacy because they like the religion or group.
People tolerate obnoxious relatives because they are family. You dread them coming over but because its MeMaw, you suck it in and allow her to make you feel like jumping out a window. Yet, what is happening when we are in a religion and now the guru is not so enlightened? Or the priest is really not so nice anymore. Oh, and the Pastor's wife is really a broom flying hag. Come to think about it, I'm offended at the Pastor, and his elitist children with their self-entitlement attitudes.

You know Sister, I think this never happens over night. It's like the people next door, we have barbecues, are children play together and sleep over, we even go on vacations together. Yet, it just takes a series of slights. Little by little the offences happen. Now Dick and Jane aren't so cool anymore, and you know, little Bobby is really a nasty little selfish child after all.

Just like that we are hurt, upset, bitter, we build a fence, and we don't talk anymore. If we want something, we will put up with the most difficult people.
If we no longer feel it's worth our time, we start to cool on the relationship.
Relationships take work, even in a religion. We need to look at what is going on when we get hurt. First and foremost we need to look at ourselves before we start to think the people we once loved are now so hurtful. It maybe that they were always a devil with clothes on, or maybe the problem was always with us?

In Jesus name

Brother Benincasa

www.OnTimeJournal.com

[DividedThigh]

gettin over it is much better than being bitter, it only destroys the vessel, forgive and forget is my policy, but being careful who to trust in the future, now there is another subject, dt

[OneAccord]

Originally Posted by ChTatum

I have been hurt, but only once. It is forgiven, and we are friends.

I am sure that in the course of our relationship, I probably hurt him many more times than he hurt me.

Yes, there probably have been times in the past that a minister hurt me in some way. And, no doubt, at the time, it probably seemed like some big thing. But now, in retrospect, I can't even recall a specific instance of my being hurt by a minister. But, as Bro. ChTatum pointed out, there was a time when I hurt a minister. Its odd that I can remember that clearly, but can't call to mind a single time when a minister hurt me. I guess thats why I should be more concerned with who I may have hurt in times past, rather than on who hurt me. Thank you, Bro. ChTatum for reminding me of this.

[freeatlast]

Been hurt, yes. Have I hurt someone,particularly a minister, yes.

Forgiven, almost forgotten. Forgetting is hard for us humans.

thanks for helping me to remeber again, I think

[DividedThigh]

Originally Posted by freeatlast

Been hurt, yes. Have I hurt someone,particularly a minister, yes.

Forgiven, almost forgotten. Forgetting is hard for us humans.

thanks for helping me to remeber again, I think

nice fish, free, dt

[freeatlast]

Originally Posted by DividedThigh

nice fish, free, dt

Thanks...17 pound flathead cat caught last year.

Thought my buddy had another one on yesterday. After 15 minutes on an ultra light spinning w/4 pound test it turned out to be a 29 inch freshwater drum. Dunno the weight, prolly @ 12 pounds.

Caught about 60 to 70 yesterday between three of us. Fun time!!!

[Sister Alvear]

I love fish...

[freeatlast]

Originally Posted by Sister Alvear

I love fish...

I love to fish

[BHILL]

My Pastor has hurt me lots of times.One time he hit me for some reason-can't remember why.I've also been working before and he hit me with a snowball-now that hurt!He also once found an unopened can of beer,shook it up and sprayed it all over me(had a hard time explaining that to my mom & dad).He also happened to be my best friend while growing up and is still my best friend.No I've never been emotionally hurt by my Pastor but he has inflicted some physical pain on me & I've never done anything to him that I can remember.

[StillStanding]

Originally Posted by BHILL

My Pastor has hurt me lots of times.One time he hit me for some reason-can't remember why.I've also been working before and he hit me with a snowball-now that hurt!He also once found an unopened can of beer,shook it up and sprayed it all over me(had a hard time explaining that to my mom & dad).He also happened to be my best friend while growing up and is still my best friend.No I've never been emotionally hurt by my Pastor but he has inflicted some physical pain on me & I've never done anything to him that I can remember.

Your case sounds to me that your pastor just was trying to be playful. I would bet that he never really realized your physical pain or embarrassment.