Sex Scenes

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by MrsMcD

Okay then, I believe that men do have a pause button where they are presented with options. I say that because scripture wouldn't make it clear that if a man lust in his heart, he has committed adultery. I don't believe that scripture would be in the bible if men did not have an option.

Or is it because the male is "head of the house" and our "provider/protector" that causes the scripture to address him in this way. Just thinking out loud.

[ILG]

Originally Posted by Elizabeth

I knew I wasn't the only one who thought so!

I think some who are saying so have said themselves they are not well read on the subject.

[MrsMcD]

Originally Posted by Socialite

That's very interesting.

To clarify, I'm talking initial psychological responses to visual images. We don't control that. It's instant. We can and should control things after that point. Whether we learn to bounce our eyes away, come up with practical solutions to "flee fornication," or whatever that looks like.

Oh, I see what you are saying now.

[Socialite]

So knowing the way men and women perceive visual images differs distinctly, do we still agree that when a man is "checking out a beautiful woman" and when a woman is "checking out a beautiful woman -- or handsome man" that the same thing is happening?

[Elizabeth]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

I don't think she has to be necessarily loose to process like a man. It's just a personality, for whatever background reasons, that makes her process the same way.

I usually agree with you, but I think it would be a very rare occasion for a woman to process this aspect of her life like a man, it would be psychologically impossible.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Socialite

PO, you believe personality (which you earlier said was shaped by one's environment and culture) can override psychological hard wiring?

Well, I'm not educated in that area, but from an uneducated guess, I would think it would. Doesn't our environment and culture play a part in the hard wiring?

[ILG]

Originally Posted by Socialite

So knowing the way men and women perceive visual images differs distinctly, do we still agree that when a man is "checking out a beautiful woman" and when a woman is "checking out a beautiful woman -- or handsome man" that the same thing is happening?

I never said that in the first place. But, I don't think a woman should keep blinders on her man or condemn him for having eyes. What happens in his mind is his choice. I think we need to take great care we are not adding false guilt where there should be none. Some men ARE guilty and need to change though.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Socialite

So knowing the way men and women perceive visual images differs distinctly, do we still agree that when a man is "checking out a beautiful woman" and when a woman is "checking out a beautiful woman -- or handsome man" that the same thing is happening?

No, I believe, for the most part, the same thing ISN'T happening.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Elizabeth

I usually agree with you, but I think it would be a very rare occasion for a woman to process this aspect of her life like a man, it would be psychologically impossible.

Maybe I'm not understanding the question. I'm thinking that we are saying a man is visual and deals with things in a visual way and women never do. If that is the case, then I'm not sure I can, totally, agree with that. The percentage for a man responding in that way may be higher, but that doesn't leave some of the percentage out for a woman, IMO.

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by MrsMcD

Oh, I see what you are saying now.

I'm not tricking anyone.

I'm trying to show how we perceive these fundamental differences informs our ideas about the particulars.

Furthermore, the whole idea of sex scenes in movies, men checking women out (not out of sin, but out of consideration for his wife who is with him, as one poster said), must be considered.

How does this affect our attitudes towards media?