looking for a balance who can relate

[live4him]

I have been pentecostal for more than 30 years and have been struggling with my views on certain things. all I have ever done was point fingers and condemn. where do u draw the line when every church preaches different standards,and I have lived a conservative lifestyle harder than I have ever lived.. my hubby was going to start a daughter work where i live and because I have seen my judgemental spirit and have felt conviction and not given the Love the people needed. we are not starting it due to my views.. I have come to see exactally how i treat people that they will not be saved because of no love. we are worried about the standards more than we are worried about how to show them the plan of salvation. we are worried about how they come dressed to church than how they need there soul saved. I have come to a conclusion that until we see them saved. we have to get rid of the mean spirited attitude. and quit worrying about how their dressed. I am so upset of how I became that I have changed my outter appearance because my judgemental spirit.. I see alot of pentecostals around town and they have a frown on there face they cant even smile, and since I have changed my appearance i feel more happy about spreading the word and to see people saved. I dont want a frown on my face and call my self pentecostal. My doctrine has not changed i still beleive in oneness. I have had many people recently give me the word "balance", we have to balance our walk with God and to see if this is a salvation issue..no more will I point fingers or judge or condemn. i feel a burden for the lost and just wanna see people saved.. please give me ur opinion. so i can know I am not thee only one that feels this way...