Pastors, how do you handle it when...

[Theresa]

Originally Posted by MissBrattified

Just to be clear...this is not regarding any man in our church, nor am I questioning any action my pastor has taken on any such issue. Just to remove any discomfort some might feel at discussing this....

revr...what do you think about what I said about men learning how to be strong leaders/providers at home? Do you think that has some correlation to their strength as a Christian overall, or their potential contribution to the church or the strength of the local assembly?

It seems to me if men are weak leaders, lazy providers, or abusive, that it can bleed over into the church setting and produce a weak church environment, or one in which women feel the need to step in and produce better leadership.

AND - on that note - when the woman has to "step in" and lets say, be the spiritual leader as well as the provider for the family - it's an unnatural balance in the home and it DOES NOT WORK.

But what are you supposed to do??? The woman CANT not step up and provide for the family, she cant NOT be the strong one and insist her family be faithful to church...AND the pastor CANNOT force a grown man to do anything..

He cant counsel with the man if the man wont be counseled. He can preach it from the pulpit but he CANNOT make the man do it.

What DO you do?? A woman being the head of the family, DOES NOT WORK....what do you do?


You cant shoot the husband! and you cannot change who he really is...