He Called Me Dad

[Rico]

Originally Posted by AmazingGrace

Yall are both doing wonderful things here. Can I interject something here being on the adoptee front.. one who has met her biological parents... And I know Margie didnt mean anything by this but the one thing you have the hardest time with is what to call each other. Yep sounds very silly I know but the adoptee does not want to hurt the adoptive parents or birth parents family so it gets complicated at times. My parents who raised me will always be my parents and the real ones.. however I do occasionally still catch myself saying my real mom... about my bio mom... its just something its really a catch 22 because they are the real parent as in gave birth and yet at the same time you are the real parent because you raised them... so go gentle on the kids its very complicated especially the first few years. They will never replace those who raised or birthed them they just have to figure out where all these new people belong!

Rico you are doing wonderful at adapting all of this and can I say from your sons side of this... I would be so proud... taken steps like a real stepper Some push or some dont do anything... its the right time right stride and right approach!

Sister, I feel pretty good about the timing of this myself. There have been other times I have tracked them down, but it never felt like it was the right time to make any contact. Also, the other times I tracked them down I went through so much looking and ran into brick wall after brick wall. This time I did run into a few hurdles, but it was only a matter of a few days before I had found them. It's like a door to finding each other suddenly opened up for us.

Like I said in another post, I don't know what God has planned for all of this. I know his parents are both about 16 years older than me, and she told me that her husband has had a stroke and he is now paralyzed on the left side of his body. Because of my son's mental condition, he will never be able to live on his own. Maybe the Lord is putting things into place so he will have a place to come to when his mom and dad pass from this life. I don't know. All I know is I am glad God has made a way for us to connect with each other. I'm going to take things nice and easy with him and his family, and enjoy every phone call, every card, every letter, every picture, every email, every everything concerning him. He must really be a very special person to the Lord because He made sure he's got two families that love him very much and want the very best for him.