Anyones Help is appreciated

[Faith]

HELP! I am new to Apostolic doctrine. New to church standards. ---

I feel totally lost at my church. I am afraid to ask questions afraid that I am being rebellious or questioning the belief system. ---

I am having a very, very difficult time with the very strong dress code, and church standards. Standards that are held at a high degree--However, no one sat me down and discussed this with me. BUT, I kept feeling I was being preached at, shunned and I didn't know why....so I ask and WOW! Know I now. BUT, I am not certain I can live to what they require? SO, what should I do...I prayed, I don't feel convicted for the things I do such, watching TV, wearing makeup, tanning bed. What do you do in my situation? I have thought about throwing in the towel and moving to another less standard church. My church is small and there is only about 20 people, and 15 are all immediate family. Then there is ME. ---They all have long flowing hair, wore in a bun..ME, I have very short hair, highlights of blonde--this is not good good. :confused

Everyone is nice, but I have no clue as to what I am doing there. God lead me there from AG church. Is this possible? I feel so bond up...I am breaking all the standards not because I choose too, I don't fully understand the purpose behind them. I have went from being a happy person to being a sad, and overwhelmed. Everyone stares at (few we have there). I love the worship, and the prayer time. But I just don't fit in as the others. At times I think about going and getting extensions in my hair just so I please the folks. I feel I am more concerned about pleaseing them then pleasing God. I feel I have lost sight with the Lord. I think more of what the church believes and accepts then what God thinks of me. Can you help me?