Coworker Spat

[AreYouReady?]

Originally Posted by ILG

This is it. And their boundaries are large and very beneficial to themselves. What I find interesting, in a psychological way, is that in most places, people just give in to this type (because they know if they don't, they will get a tantrum). I used to give in to this type and jump through hoops for everybody and you know what? I was sick a lot. I have noticed that people that are people pleasers seem to get sick a lot. Has anyone else noticed that? So, I find that sometimes I have to stand up for myself and it's not easy. I think we will be able to come to some sort of compromise. I told my sup I want to work in the back away from her. I think I can do that when the coworker is there. My other beef with the sup besides wanting me to give in to my coworker was telling me that there are other people that don't want to hop on my desk (briefly when they have to be there and she wants the keyboard flat and not be ergonomic). I don't know how I am expected to work at a non-ergonomic desk. I am pushing back on this one.

Those type of people also try to make life a living hades for you at work too. They will say all manner of things so that other people will be afraid to be seen associating with you.

You are right, it's not easy to stand up for yourself, but...you will feel better about taking your stand to be your own person. It is just as easy for them to fix the desk to fit what they need. There are laws about handicap accommodations in the workplace, so if you have a special need, they should not be able to go over your head.

I would look up the laws to see how they apply to you and to cite them to anybody who complains. Good luck, my friend.

[ILG]

Originally Posted by AreYouReady?

Those type of people also try to make life a living hades for you at work too. They will say all manner of things so that other people will be afraid to be seen associating with you.

You are right, it's not easy to stand up for yourself, but...you will feel better about taking your stand to be your own person. It is just as easy for them to fix the desk to fit what they need. There are laws about handicap accommodations in the workplace, so if you have a special need, they should not be able to go over your head.

I would look up the laws to see how they apply to you and to cite them to anybody who complains. Good luck, my friend.

Well I do know that if I am forced to use something non-ergonomic that that would not be kosher. I do feel better when I stand up for myself.

I had one woman who was making life at work a living hades last year or so. I stood up to her (by not giving in to her demands......that was all......no retaliation) and she kept upping and upping and upping the ante. I kept ignoring and refusing to retaliate. Finally, she could take it no longer and she openly verbally assaulted me but her and I were the only ones present of course (before this it had been undercover sniper shots for months). I walked away and told my supervisor. Again, I did not retaliate. We ended up sitting across from each other in the directors office. My coworker was mostly the one who was reprimanded but we were told if we ended up in the office again, we would BOTH be written up. This made me angry because I was put in the line of fire for doing NOTHING wrong. My sup said the director just said that because he had to be "fair". Anyway, this woman stopped talking to me altogether and for the first time in months, I was happy to go to work. She eventually moved and there was relative peace.

The woman I am dealing with now is not like this other woman. The other woman was just plain nasty. The woman I am dealing with now does have a heart in there somewhere but she is OCD and controlling. I think it will work out. (Hopefully) I just don't want to end up in front of the director again or it will look like there is a pattern. And there is a pattern. I don't like to take what I shouldn't have to.

[AreYouReady?]

Originally Posted by ILG

We ended up sitting across from each other in the directors office. My coworker was mostly the one who was reprimanded but we were told if we ended up in the office again, we would BOTH be written up. This made me angry because I was put in the line of fire for doing NOTHING wrong.

That makes it bad when one gets sucked into turmoil like that.