Confidentiality of Tithes

[Steve Epley]

Originally Posted by freeatlast

Am I the only one who finds this a bit over the top. Giving birth is not an illness. Not sure why you and your wife feel the necessity to camp out in the labor room with this mother.

Some preachers would not feel that they have to tell us how hard they have labored, to earn they 100% take/control of the tithe, if they'd stay out times like these hours spent in the labor room.

Unless there were/are complications that the family called you in on, stay out of labor delivery rooms.

Young couple's first baby they were afraid so I am there. I certainly have not been trying to toot my horn just giving the other side of all the horror stories you guys have posted on how the preacher should be on food stamps and living in the projects and filling out a time sheet.
You have no excuse YOUR pastor never took ONE dime of the church for his own personal use all the years he pastored and provided jobs for many of the men in the church.

[RandyWayne]

Originally Posted by Steve Epley

Young couple's first baby they were afraid so I am there. I certainly have not been trying to toot my horn just giving the other side of all the horror stories you guys have posted on how the preacher should be on food stamps and living in the projects and filling out a time sheet.
You have no excuse YOUR pastor never took ONE dime of the church for his own personal use all the years he pastored and provided jobs for many of the men in the church.

OK, I can understand someone being nervous and wanting some support to a degree, but to add to freeatlast's initial statement, why do people need their pastor there? Are they taught that he should be there?

[Titus2woman]

Originally Posted by Steve Epley

Young couple's first baby they were afraid so I am there. I certainly have not been trying to toot my horn just giving the other side of all the horror stories you guys have posted on how the preacher should be on food stamps and living in the projects and filling out a time sheet.
You have no excuse YOUR pastor never took ONE dime of the church for his own personal use all the years he pastored and provided jobs for many of the men in the church.

Mature men should know that young women having a first baby are nervous... it's just part of the deal... You could try encouraging some birth prep. classes among your membership.

There are lots of things in life that are scary. Taking college entrance exams, having surgery, going to boot camp... You can not follow people into those situations and you should not follow a young mother into her childbed room either. Your job is to help people grow up, not to teach the that they can not live without you there every moment. A woman needs this time alone with her husband or if she has none then with her own mother or another mature woman and her doctor or midwife. It is abuse for you to follow a woman to the hospital and she may not have the nerve to say she does not want you there. You should be the mature one in this situation and pray from afar.

Good grief.