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[Margies3]

One of the things that has been most effective on my boys as they've gotten older is this: I ask them to do a certain job - mow the grass for instance. Then if I have to remind them again, I just say to them, "if you are not going to do it, just say so now because I will go ahead and do it myself if you're not". Only one time have I ever had to actually follow thru on that threat. I had told Keith to mow and he didn't get to it. I told him twice and then finally said to him that he could forget it - I would just do it myself. He didn't believe I would. So I started the job myself. He looked out his window and saw what I was doing. It took him about 10 seconds to come running out and offer to take over the mower.

guilt is a wonderful tool

[AreYouReady?]

Originally Posted by Margies3

One of the things that has been most effective on my boys as they've gotten older is this: I ask them to do a certain job - mow the grass for instance. Then if I have to remind them again, I just say to them, "if you are not going to do it, just say so now because I will go ahead and do it myself if you're not". Only one time have I ever had to actually follow thru on that threat. I had told Keith to mow and he didn't get to it. I told him twice and then finally said to him that he could forget it - I would just do it myself. He didn't believe I would. So I started the job myself. He looked out his window and saw what I was doing. It took him about 10 seconds to come running out and offer to take over the mower.

guilt is a wonderful tool

Oh Margie! Guilt doesn't work at my house. About 6 years ago, I wanted a garden so I got out the tiller. Now I was not able to push that tiller for very long because of physical conditions, but I was hoping my three men would move off the porch to take it from my hands and let me rest. Sort of visual hint for them to see that the garden needed to be tilled? Ya Know?

I saw my oldest son looking at me huffing and puffing, pushing that tiller, my face getting all red from the effort I was making. I saw people driving by and taking a long look at them on the porch and me in the garden.

My son did get to feeling guilty because he said to his father..."This just doesn't look right ...mamma out there and all doing the tilling and us on the porch". Then he just turned around and walked into the house so nobody else would see him on the porch!

I bring that up every so often just to rub it in.

[Margies3]

Originally Posted by AreYouReady?

Oh Margie! Guilt doesn't work at my house. About 6 years ago, I wanted a garden so I got out the tiller. Now I was not able to push that tiller for very long because of physical conditions, but I was hoping my three men would move off the porch to take it from my hands and let me rest. Sort of visual hint for them to see that the garden needed to be tilled? Ya Know?

I saw my oldest son looking at me huffing and puffing, pushing that tiller, my face getting all red from the effort I was making. I saw people driving by and taking a long look at them on the porch and me in the garden.

My son did get to feeling guilty because he said to his father..."This just doesn't look right ...mamma out there and all doing the tilling and us on the porch". Then he just turned around and walked into the house so nobody else would see him on the porch!

I bring that up every so often just to rub it in.

AreYouReady, I learned how to work this guilt thing effectively from my mom. She was a MASTER at it!

One time, our kitchen sink was plugged. She asked my dad several times to take a look at it. He didn't do it. So finally, while he was at work, she tore into the job. Took ALL the plumbing under the sink apart piece by piece and had it laid out on the kitchen floor. When dad got home, he started to say something to her about how she should have waited and shouldn't have done it herself. She just looked at him and told him, "I asked you to do it several times. You never did. So I assumed you weren't going to. It had to be done. So what else was I supposed to do? Now, if you'd like to put it back together, feel free. If not, I'll do that too"

We kid's stood in the other room holding back our giggles. We knew she had one-upped him!

[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by Margies3

AreYouReady, I learned how to work this guilt thing effectively from my mom. She was a MASTER at it!

One time, our kitchen sink was plugged. She asked my dad several times to take a look at it. He didn't do it. So finally, while he was at work, she tore into the job. Took ALL the plumbing under the sink apart piece by piece and had it laid out on the kitchen floor. When dad got home, he started to say something to her about how she should have waited and shouldn't have done it herself. She just looked at him and told him, "I asked you to do it several times. You never did. So I assumed you weren't going to. It had to be done. So what else was I supposed to do? Now, if you'd like to put it back together, feel free. If not, I'll do that too"

We kid's stood in the other room holding back our giggles. We knew she had one-upped him!

HAHA!!! That is GREAT!!! My mother has used the same tactic on my Dad--and STILL does. She will put a bag of trash next to the counter to take out and apprise Jeff that it's there. If he doesn't get to it quickly, she will, rather pitifully, march her 78 year old self and the trash out to the big trash can at the end of our driveway. Jeff hates it when she does that because he likes to take care of that stuff himself, so when she sets down a bag of trash, he jumps on it.

She has him well-trained.