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Old 09-26-2013, 12:18 PM
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Writing a letter to my pastor

Most of you are aware of the decision my wife and I are wrestling with on wether or not to leave our church to begin assisting a small, struggling church nearby.

I recently shared all the "logical" reasons for such a move, how it could be beneficial to the struggling church and to my family. But of course i also shared concerning other "pressures" of late that have expedited this decision.

My pastor is a very busy man. Besides pastoring, he is also our District Superintendent, and he is on the General Board. He is gone a good bit. Before or after church never seems to be a good time to catch him. So i am considering sending him our "proposal" in letter or email form, asking him to review the info at his leizure, and then talking to us personally about it after he has had time to assimilate the information.

Do you think this approach is acceptable?
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Old 09-26-2013, 12:22 PM
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Re: Writing a letter to my pastor

If he doesn't have time to talk to you, then do you really have time to talk to him?
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Old 09-26-2013, 12:23 PM
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Re: Writing a letter to my pastor

No.

Don't run away from this difficult situation. It will only that much stronger of vessel for use by The Master if you learn this lesson now. Learn it now, pass the test, and graduate to the next level.
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Old 09-26-2013, 12:24 PM
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Re: Writing a letter to my pastor

They are both able and should be willing to MAKE the time for each other.
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Old 09-26-2013, 12:31 PM
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Just send him a text.....
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Old 09-26-2013, 12:32 PM
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Re: Writing a letter to my pastor

Brothers, it is not a question of running away. It is a question of saving him time, so that if we do have to talk to him before or after a service, he will already have assimilated the information. Thus we can cut right to the chase.
Otherwise i will have to rush. He will have to rush. etc
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Old 09-26-2013, 12:36 PM
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My pastor is a very busy man. Besides pastoring, he is also our District Superintendent, and he is on the General Board. He is gone a good bit. Before or after church never seems to be a good time to catch him. So i am considering sending him our "proposal" in letter or email form, asking him to review the info at his leizure, and then talking to us personally about it after he has had time to assimilate the information.

Do you think this approach is acceptable?
While I think it is a good approach, considering his schedule or lack of availability, it might also be harder on you when both of you finally meet to talk. You wrote that the letter would ask that he review the info at his leisure and then talk with you once he has had some time to assimilate the information. That could be risky for you.
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Old 09-26-2013, 12:48 PM
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While I think it is a good approach, considering his schedule or lack of availability, it might also be harder on you when both of you finally meet to talk. You wrote that the letter would ask that he review the info at his leisure and then talk with you once he has had some time to assimilate the information. That could be risky for you.
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Old 09-26-2013, 01:14 PM
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Re: Writing a letter to my pastor

be careful how you word things. your emotions dont come accross when you write, and such a note will put him in a defensive position when reading.


I would also not make the letter long and drawn out. Hit the high points, and insure your "tone" is concilitory.
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Old 09-26-2013, 01:31 PM
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I recommend having someone you trust read it in advance of your sending it to him. They can tell you objectively if your tone hits right and/or if your words might be perceived in a way you do not intend.

(That is, IF, you go the letter route. I think it has its pros and cons.)
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