Does forgiveness mean trusting them again?

ModestMama · #1 05-31-2016, 09:00 AM

Oh I just wanted to clear something real quick. In my post I stated that she told a couple of ppl. I feel bad , (I didnt intentionlly tell a fib) I know for sure, its been confirmed that one family has been told and the other family i have a "hunch" has been told. (Btw the 2 families are close).

Also, through all of this I havent been able to tell . None on my family knows. But I so want to praise my Lord!!! (being a sexual abuse victim myself) i had hard times (before the Cross) of wondering WHY God could let this happened.....to ANYONE let alone a innocent child! But I want you to know, That God had his protection over my daughter through all of this. He must of have put her in a deep sleep and she never knew anything! (the only way WE knew was becuase she awoke one night and he was in her room and she didnt know why, and he confessed (again i wont go into detail). He was very repentive, he was crying so hard and begging for forgiveness (my stepson).
I cant even explain the extent of my joy in the Lord for his protection. He is so good and if anything good can come out of this....is my trust and faith in this is made me stronger!
Right before this was exposed, I had been praying to walk more in the Spirit and not flesh. I begin hatting the works of the flesh..(which i know that my friend acted in the flesh and not spirit led) and also praying for a deeper stronger faith.
And I had such a fear of the devil...i wanted to be stonger spiritually.
So during this, I fasted 3 days ( i fasted like I never fasted before...I prayed for God to show me the manner of man I was and to give me strength...and to heal all those involved..i never once prayed for revenge against her or my stepson) and while I was praying i was listening on a bluetooth speaker to a playlist on youtube of praise music....and, you know how sometimes little commercials pop up during a video/song? Well music was playing and it was interrupted for about 10 secs with static and in the static i can hear faint siging much like the Catholic sounding choirs type stuff..slow and very high notes of singing in a opertatic tone (best i can describe it) and then it stopped, Then came right back, this time i can hear the singing more clearly and then it was interuppted by a very deep demonic laugh..And Ohhhh i felt the devil was laughing at me and instead of fear, I starting rebuking commanding that joker to flee from my house!! Praise God!!
So yes, I will say that I do feel much stronger in Spirit and in Truth!

Originalist · #2 06-02-2016, 07:02 AM

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Originally Posted by ModestMama

Oh I just wanted to clear something real quick. In my post I stated that she told a couple of ppl. I feel bad , (I didnt intentionlly tell a fib) I know for sure, its been confirmed that one family has been told and the other family i have a "hunch" has been told. (Btw the 2 families are close).

Also, through all of this I havent been able to tell . None on my family knows. But I so want to praise my Lord!!! (being a sexual abuse victim myself) i had hard times (before the Cross) of wondering WHY God could let this happened.....to ANYONE let alone a innocent child! But I want you to know, That God had his protection over my daughter through all of this. He must of have put her in a deep sleep and she never knew anything! (the only way WE knew was becuase she awoke one night and he was in her room and she didnt know why, and he confessed (again i wont go into detail). He was very repentive, he was crying so hard and begging for forgiveness (my stepson).
I cant even explain the extent of my joy in the Lord for his protection. He is so good and if anything good can come out of this....is my trust and faith in this is made me stronger!
Right before this was exposed, I had been praying to walk more in the Spirit and not flesh. I begin hatting the works of the flesh..(which i know that my friend acted in the flesh and not spirit led) and also praying for a deeper stronger faith.
And I had such a fear of the devil...i wanted to be stonger spiritually.
So during this, I fasted 3 days ( i fasted like I never fasted before...I prayed for God to show me the manner of man I was and to give me strength...and to heal all those involved..i never once prayed for revenge against her or my stepson) and while I was praying i was listening on a bluetooth speaker to a playlist on youtube of praise music....and, you know how sometimes little commercials pop up during a video/song? Well music was playing and it was interrupted for about 10 secs with static and in the static i can hear faint siging much like the Catholic sounding choirs type stuff..slow and very high notes of singing in a opertatic tone (best i can describe it) and then it stopped, Then came right back, this time i can hear the singing more clearly and then it was interuppted by a very deep demonic laugh..And Ohhhh i felt the devil was laughing at me and instead of fear, I starting rebuking commanding that joker to flee from my house!! Praise God!!
So yes, I will say that I do feel much stronger in Spirit and in Truth!

The better thing would have been for your friend to anonymously report her concerns to the authorities so as not to create awkwardness in the church and between her and your families. How did she find out about your stepsons alleged actions to begin with? If you told her, that is a lesson learned. we have to be careful who we confide in concerning our family issues. It seems she not only told the authorities, but others in the church as well, and is proud of it.

ModestMama · #3 06-02-2016, 07:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Originalist

The better thing would have been for your friend to anonymously report her concerns to the authorities so as not to create awkwardness in the church and between her and your families. How did she find out about your stepsons alleged actions to begin with? If you told her, that is a lesson learned. we have to be careful who we confide in concerning our family issues. It seems she not only told the authorities, but others in the church as well, and is proud of it.

She knew about it because i was on the phone with my husband ( and he told me) while driving to pick my daughter up from her house. And I was a hysterical emotional mess when I arrived. And I was fuming!
I do think she is proud if reporting it....feeling what she did was "right".. But the outcome she so insisted on did NOT happen. And she doesn't know what the outcome is. Now, my husband is totally cut off from his son and can't even talk to him. This has been even harder for my husband because he does not know how his son is doing.