Unfair/Unrealistic/UnScriptural Expectations

[Felicity]

Originally Posted by ReformedDave

Scripture is clear that there is to be a distinction in function between the individual, family, church, and society and when any of these lines of demarcation are distorted we have problems. There are families that make unbiblical demands of their pastors and the opposite is also true. When the boundaries of scripture are broken we have these distortions.

True, but thinking about this as a pastor's wife, I don't think we've ever had church members who have made unbiblical demands of us. I can't seem to think of any.

[ReformedDave]

Originally Posted by Felicity

True, but thinking about this as a pastor's wife, I don't think we've ever had church members who have made unbiblical demands of us. I can't seem to think of any.

You taught them well....I'm sure you followed the same admonition. Our pastor and the elders do the same. We're have elder/deacon visitation this week. Kind of like going to the principle's office.....j/k

[Felicity]

Originally Posted by ReformedDave

You taught them well....I'm sure you followed the same admonition. Our pastor and the elders do the same. We're have elder/deacon visitation this week. Kind of like going to the principle's office.....j/k

It wasn't our teaching so much, although one church that we pastored my husband did a lesson on "What the Church Should Expect From Their Pastor" ......... and "What the Pastor Should Expect From the Church". People really appreciated those two lessons.

I guess I've had the privilege of growing up in healthy church environments where pastors weren't bullies. My husband is NOT a hard taskmaster and doesn't have the attitude of being lord over God's heritage. We don't put unrealistic expectations on our congregations.

I have found though that what the pastor sows into a congregation and into people is reaped. And if a congregation is kind and respectful of their pastor they, as a congregation, will reap that in good ways.