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[rgcraig]

I can not express an opinion because I'm divorced.

[revrandy]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

I can not express an opinion because I'm divorced.

is this your question???

I didn't say that opinions can't be expressed...I simply said I think it is not prudent for single folks to be discussing these things especially in mixed company.... or married folk either with single people online....imo....

again it's just my opinion...have at it...

[Sherri]

This thread has degenerated.

[ILG]

I think pornography has had a huge impact on everything. It is such a secret sin now and at the click of a button. It truly terrifies me how available it is. I think it is a secret epidemic. Sometimes I wonder if pornography may have something to do with the subject at hand in every way. Meaning, why people are doing the things they do....why people are willing to discuss it....and whether intimacy is at the core of the discussion or if sexual addiction is at the core. I don't have th answers to all these questions but it is some food for thought.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by ILG

I think pornography has had a huge impact on everything. It is such a secret sin now and at the click of a button. It truly terrifies me how available it is. I think it is a secret epidemic. Sometimes I wonder if pornography may have something to do with the subject at hand in every way. Meaning, why people are doing the things they do....why people are willing to discuss it....and whether intimacy is at the core of the discussion or if sexual addiction is at the core. I don't have th answers to all these questions but it is some food for thought.

ILG,
I think people have wanted to ask others opinions about OS and AS. The reasons, IMO, for that are: it is something you don't want to talk about in a local church setting, you know people have differing views and you want to know what they are and why they are differing. We have done this here. I've given my opinion and others have given their opinion.

It seems to come down to two opinions:

1. It is sin and considered sodomy.
2. It is and should be between consenting adults.

I don't see anyone joking around in an intimate or careless way. I think the questions are being asked in a straightforward manner and answers are being given in the same way. I haven't read anything that is tasteless.

[ILG]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

ILG,
I think people have wanted to ask others opinions about OS and AS. The reasons, IMO, for that are: it is something you don't want to talk about in a local church setting, you know people have differing views and you want to know what they are and why they are differing. We have done this here. I've given my opinion and others have given their opinion.

It seems to come down to two opinions:

1. It is sin and considered sodomy.
2. It is and should be between consenting adults.

I don't see anyone joking around in an intimate or careless way. I think the questions are being asked in a straightforward manner and answers are being given in the same way. I haven't read anything that is tasteless.

I am confused about your answer to my post. I didn't say anything about the above (until a post I just wrote a few moments ago). I did talk about pornography and sexual addiction. I think it is an important topic and definately related. I'm afraid some men in the church use their wives for a sexual "fix" and use the Bible to do it (saying the marriage bed is undefiled and relations should not be withheld). That isn't to say that I think "whatever" is a sin....but no one should ever be pressured.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by ILG

I am confused about your answer to my post. I didn't say anything about the above (until a post I just wrote a few moments ago). I did talk about pornography and sexual addiction. I think it is an important topic and definately related. I'm afraid some men in the church use their wives for a sexual "fix" and use the Bible to do it (saying the marriage bed is undefiled and relations should not be withheld). That isn't to say that I think "whatever" is a sin....but no one should ever be pressured.

ILG,
I'm sorry, I must have misunderstood what you were saying. When you said, ....why people are willing to discuss it....and whether intimacy is at the core of the discussion or if sexual addiction is at the core.", I thought you were implying that is why some may be discussing it here.

I felt the topic was something many haven't come to terms with as they are not finding a decent audience to express their thoughts for feedback. I feel this is as good a place as any, being that Sister Falla, the wiser, is also engaging in the conversation with tact, as are others.

[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by ILG

I think pornography has had a huge impact on everything. It is such a secret sin now and at the click of a button. It truly terrifies me how available it is. I think it is a secret epidemic. Sometimes I wonder if pornography may have something to do with the subject at hand in every way. Meaning, why people are doing the things they do....why people are willing to discuss it....and whether intimacy is at the core of the discussion or if sexual addiction is at the core. I don't have th answers to all these questions but it is some food for thought.

Well, here's a new question to throw out there... ...is it wrong to be addicted to having sex with your spouse?

Is sexual addiction just a white-washed title for immoral and promiscuous behavior? Should it even be used in reference to the married relationship?

[ILG]

Originally Posted by MissBrattified

Well, here's a new question to throw out there... ...is it wrong to be addicted to having sex with your spouse?

Is sexual addiction just a white-washed title for immoral and promiscuous behavior? Should it even be used in reference to the married relationship?

I think people can be addicted to sex with their spouse. What an addiction does is makes a person keep from meeting responsibility. So, is sex used as a drug and does it cause arguments? Or is it used as an intimacy builder? Those are the real questions no matter the frequency.

[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by ILG

I think people can be addicted to sex with their spouse. What an addiction does is makes a person keep from meeting responsibility. So, is sex used as a drug and does it cause arguments? Or is it used as an intimacy builder? Those are the real questions no matter the frequency.

Hmmm.

So what would qualify it as an addiction, other than...causing arguments?

I'm going to skip right over using it as a drug, because I don't really understand it, and can't really express my initial thoughts about it on here.

Sex should be fun--not just deliberate (planned) for a "good reason." As long as both husband and wife are happy and fulfilled, I say it is an intimacy builder.

I also think that men do have higher sex drives than women naturally, so it wouldn't be fair to say that they are addicted to sex just because they want it more often. Nor is it fair to say a woman is frigid if she doesn't (want it as often).

The balance is found in couples pleasing one another, and doing what makes BOTH happy--and if that's every night, then I don't call that "addiction."

So...back to my question...what would you call "sexual addiction?"