Seven Days of Sex... Woo Hoo!! :)

[Jermyn Davidson]

Originally Posted by ILG

Oh, I do think that is why some are discussing it. But I certainly wasn't implying that that is why everyone is here. I just think it is more prevalent than people are sometimes willing to admit.

I started this thread.

I have admitted on AFF to struggling with porn-- that's why I come here so as to stay away from the other stuff.


The questions I have prompted or come right out and asked, however, have nothing to do with porn.

It has everything to do with boundaries within a Christian marriage, Christians who decide to set boundaries for others and whether or not they have the scripture to back up the opinions they pass on as command.

Maybe the opinions are Biblical commands. Maybe the opinions are examples of good advice. Maybe the opinions are only opinions.


As a single guy who's been taught that it is a sin for OS to happen between a man and a wife, I wanted to see if any one else was as skeptical about that as I was.

I believe I am open minded enough to be shown scripture or even a Biblical concept that would properly address these questions.

For the most part, the language of this thread has been mature and so has the discussion.


Thanks to all that have kept this thread from drowning in toxic waste.

[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by 1399

I started this thread.

I have admitted on AFF to struggling with porn-- that's why I come here so as to stay away from the other stuff.


The questions I have prompted or come right out and asked, however, have nothing to do with porn.

It has everything to do with boundaries within a Christian marriage, Christians who decide to set boundaries for others and whether or not they have the scripture to back up the opinions they pass on as command.

Maybe the opinions are Biblical commands. Maybe the opinions are examples of good advice. Maybe the opinions are only opinions.


As a single guy who's been taught that it is a sin for OS to happen between a man and a wife, I wanted to see if any one else was as skeptical about that as I was.

I believe I am open minded enough to be shown scripture or even a Biblical concept that would properly address these questions.

For the most part, the language of this thread has been mature and so has the discussion.


Thanks to all that have kept this thread from drowning in toxic waste.

1399, from the topic of the thread--I'd say the pastor is wrong. (Mind you, I didn't watch the video.)

Wrong, in that, good sex is the result of a good relationship, not the cause of it.

Wrong because it isn't his business, and while his motives might be good, it just isn't his place to tell married couples how often. The Bible isn't specific--it just says not to withhold from one another.

Within a Christian marriage, all you have to do is use biblical principles--even in the bedroom. Serve one another in love, make meeting your spouse's needs your priority, and your own needs will get met in the process.

The moment selfishness sets in, and you start making demands of your spouse with the narrow goal of having your needs met, well...things will deteriorate quickly.

The boundaries in the bedroom should be simple. We're here to please one another, and anything that displeases either of us should be left outside the door. A Venn Diagram comes to mind.

I also think TV's should be left out of the bedroom, but that's another thread. Probably.

[ILG]

Originally Posted by 1399

I started this thread.

I have admitted on AFF to struggling with porn-- that's why I come here so as to stay away from the other stuff.


The questions I have prompted or come right out and asked, however, have nothing to do with porn.

It has everything to do with boundaries within a Christian marriage, Christians who decide to set boundaries for others and whether or not they have the scripture to back up the opinions they pass on as command.
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Actually, I think they may have very much to do with it. Pornography breaks down normal boundaries until people don't know what is right or wrong anymore. This includes preachers who don't know correct boundaries. I think this culture has so much hidden porn that even people who are not looking at or addicted to porn are affected by it.

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by ILG

Actually, I think they may have very much to do with it. Pornography breaks down normal boundaries until people don't know what is right or wrong anymore. This includes preachers who don't know correct boundaries. I think this culture has so much hidden porn that even people who are not looking at or addicted to porn are affected by it.

ILG - You hit the nail on the head! The world creeps into the church by making us insensitive to Godly boundaries. Blessings, Rhonda