Seven Days of Sex... Woo Hoo!! :)

Falla39 · #1 11-17-2008, 12:42 PM

Some conclusions after almost 50 yrs of a fruitful, loving marriage:

Newlyweds would possibly be the ones most interested in nightly
love-making! (Notice I said LOVEMAKING! There is a difference in
Love and sex.) Most can have sex, but not everyone can make love.)

For couples that have been married many years, IF you have to
have Sex every night, something is missing. Loves teaches! Love is
kind and tender and thinks of the other. One for the other and each for
the Lord. And IF you think the Lord has no place in your Lovemaking, you
had better think again, for God IS Love! Without God its just sex!

If done right the first night, you won't have to do it over every night.
Skip a day or so, if for no other reason, to see or know IF you can.
Things repeated too often may become commonplace and lose their value.
It may become a "have to" occasion. Just repeating something isn't necess-
arily getting the work done.

There used to be a saying, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". Love
draws us to each other (not another). Love looks no further than home,
for where our "treasure" is, there will be our heart also! It also takes time
and honesty and working together to learn about each other. That's some
of the wonder of it all!

Someone who would settle for another than their spouse, anytime or any
place,
isn't in love. It is simply our flesh uncontrolled, by the Spirit of God.

After almost 50 yrs. my husband is the only man I want/desire when it comes to
the intimate need between a man and a woman. It's because of the LOVE of GOD
shed abroad in our hearts, by the Holy Ghost. We are COMPLETE IN HIM! It's not
all about me, or we. IT's about HE, which is the head of ALL principalities and power.
HE in we and each of us in HIM, that makes the difference.

Needs to be a lot less of me, and we, and a WHOLE lot MORE of HE or HIM!

Whether it is understood what I am saying depends on what your relationship is
with HIM, and our level of maturity! That relates to anything.

No, I am not just an old fuddy-duddy that is now too old to enjoy LOVE-making!
I'm old/wise enough to dislike "sex". There really is a BIG difference! I believe in
settling for the best! Again, if it's LOVE, and the LOVE-making is motivated by True
Love, it will last a while, surely a week. What do we expect out of those who have
to serve in the military or work out of town. If we think we can't go a day without
sex, and act upon that type of thinking, it's not LOVE, it's ME, ME ME! That type of
thinking could wind up in a divorce.

Our late father was in the U.S. Army and served almost two years overseas, which
included front line service. He had a young wife and four little children at home. After
Dad started the work of God in our city, he would tell of how God had kept him from
harm, sin and evil. He didn't tell everything to the church but to some of his family
members of the more personal times. How God KEPT him. I am so glad for these things
he related so that I could understand as a young married that you could be KEPT by
a personal God who could and would KEEP you by HIS POWER. But we have to "desire
to be KEPT!

Dad told of a young Japanese woman who came and sat across from him on a train
in Japan. She placed her feet on his lap. He immediately lifted her feet and let them
drop (not too gently) to the floor and said, "Wife only". He was 26 or 27 yrs old, had
experienced married life). It CAN be done if COMMITTED to a GOD who sees, hears
and understands His Creation.
I also know of a close family member whose home was broken apart by the betrayal
of marital committment. This person related how God KEPT them for many yrs. before
they married again.
Both this person and my Dad related how God had simply, "put the desire for that part
of life, ON HOLD" until they were again in a place for "happy married life to continue".
But again, "WE must desire to be KEPT".
As long as the enemy of our SOUL can convince us that we cannot go a day without
SEX, he's got us "whopped".

Is it LOVE or is it EGO. LOVE SATISFIES! Ego is kin to lust, it is never satis-
fied. Love will last as long as you do. Lust of the flesh (me, me, me) is NEVER satisfied.
Lust conceived bringeth for death.(spiritual, and can bring natural death).

Blessings,

Falla39

Esther · #2 11-17-2008, 01:01 PM

Personally I don't think anyone should set a time of frequency. That is between the couples as long as it is mutually agreed upon.

I have not read the 5 Love languages but believe it or not that was our lesson this sunday. It was good and I will probably buy the book and read it.

Knowing the language your spouse is would go further in making them happy.

tamor · #3 11-17-2008, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Esther

Personally I don't think anyone should set a time of frequency. That is between the couples as long as it is mutually agreed upon.

I have not read the 5 Love languages but believe it or not that was our lesson this sunday. It was good and I will probably buy the book and read it.

Knowing the language your spouse is would go further in making them happy.

I have had that book for many years. It is a good read. And the principles apply to anyone - not just your spouse.

Pressing-On · #4 11-17-2008, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Falla39

No, I am not just an old fuddy-duddy that is now too old to enjoy LOVE-making!
I'm old/wise enough to dislike "sex". There really is a BIG difference! I believe in
settling for the best! Again, if it's LOVE, and the LOVE-making is motivated by True
Love, it will last a while, surely a week. What do we expect out of those who have
to serve in the military or work out of town. If we think we can't go a day without
sex, and act upon that type of thinking, it's not LOVE, it's ME, ME ME! That type of
thinking could wind up in a divorce.

Blessings,

Falla39

Sister Falla,
I appreciate everything you have said and agree with most of what you have said. I am wondering about the paragraph above. A whole week? I could see someone that is in the military or working out of town doing that out of necessity. But, are you talking about two people at home together every day? When you live together, love each other, etc., etc., how can a week go by with no intimacy? Did I misunderstand you?

rgcraig · #5 11-17-2008, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Pressing-On

Sister Falla,
I appreciate everything you have said and agree with most of what you have said. I am wondering about the paragraph above. A whole week? I could see someone that is in the military or working out of town doing that out of necessity. But, are you talking about two people at home together every day? When you live together, love each other, etc., etc., how can a week go by with no intimacy? Did I misunderstand you?

She also said, "For couples that have been married many years, IF you have to have sex every night, something is missing." - - it's about the "have to have" that she's addressing. That if it's true love, that you can skip a night or two (also in her post).

Pressing-On · #6 11-17-2008, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by rgcraig

She also said, "For couples that have been married many years, IF you have to have sex every night, something is missing." - - it's about the "have to have" that she's addressing. That if it's true love, that you can skip a night or two (also in her post).

I agree on the night or two. I thought she said a whole week. That would be pushing it.

rgcraig · #7 11-17-2008, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Pressing-On

I agree on the night or two. I thought she said a whole week. That would be pushing it.

Well, we don't want to get into Sis. Falla's business, but I'm saying go girl!

tamor · #8 11-17-2008, 01:46 PM

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Originally Posted by rgcraig

Well, we don't want to get into Sis. Falla's business, but I'm saying go girl!

Pressing-On · #9 11-17-2008, 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by rgcraig

Well, we don't want to get into Sis. Falla's business, but I'm saying go girl!

Falla39 · #10 11-17-2008, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by rgcraig

She also said, "For couples that have been married many years, IF you have to have sex every night, something is missing." - - it's about the "have to have" that she's addressing. That if it's true love, that you can skip a night or two (also in her post).

Thank you, Sis. Renda,

That's exactly what I was speaking of. The thread seemed to promote
the idea of having sex every night. Sex three times a night and five on
the weekend doesn't necessarily mean it "true love". What about the
little mother with two or three little ones under five yrs. old. What about
the little pregnant mother in the latter stages of her pregnancy. There
are a lot of things which can be considered and should be. There is many
times a lack of appreciation for the little wife that works just as hard on
a job, yet she is expected to go home, cook, clean, etc.,etc., and then
perform in the bedroom as if she had done nothing all day. THAT IS NOT
True Love either!!! Love does NOT DEMAND or THREATEN. LOVE is KIND
and GENTLE.....and CONSIDERATE!

Hugs,

Falla39