A NEW Year-A NEW promise

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Hot Coffee Ms.

It reminds me of the song....He Can Only Pick Up What You Lay Down

Therefore if you are willing to change, He can take care of it.

My God Can Do Anything.

Yes, if we allow it. I was talking to a friend of mine that had some real traumatic issues happen to her as a child. She carried that into her adult life and finally found a good counselor who worked along side God to bring healing into her life.

It was very interesting to find out how hard she had to work to make the changes in her life. She said that many times she would regress into a pity state because it felt good and was more comfortable than the pain of getting up and working through her issues.

She went on to say that many people seek out a counselor just to vent, but don't realize there is work involved in order to really effect a change.

It made me feel exhausted to understand the process for some. I'm thankful God has helped her to where she is today!!!

[ILG]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

Yes, if we allow it. I was talking to a friend of mine that had some real traumatic issues happen to her as a child. She carried that into her adult life and finally found a good counselor who worked along side God to bring healing into her life.

It was very interesting to find out how hard she had to work to make the changes in her life. She said that many times she would regress into a pity state because it felt good and was more comfortable than the pain of getting up and working through her issues.

She went on to say that many people seek out a counselor just to vent, but don't realize there is work involved in order to really effect a change.

It made me feel exhausted to understand the process for some. I'm thankful God has helped her to where she is today!!!

I think what often happens here is a person tries to work through the issues but is invalidated and revictimized by those who should help. So, a person never gets past the point of needing help. Sometimes it takes time to know who to talk to and to remember not to talk to those who invalidate and revictimize you.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by ILG

I think what often happens here is a person tries to work through the issues but is invalidated and revictimized by those who should help. So, a person never gets past the point of needing help. Sometimes it takes time to know who to talk to and to remember not to talk to those who invalidate and revictimize you.

She was actually saying that through the counseling you have to look at the pain right in the face and deal with it. It's easy to step back into your comfort zone and rest - but you can't - you have to look at it and be willing to effect the change.

Many just want to talk to a counselor or friend without putting forth effort to work at change. Venting can be good only if you are willing to do something about what you just vented about.