Do you believe the innocent party in a situation

[simplyme]

Originally Posted by Rhoni

Depends on which legalistic organization you belong to. The UPCI recognizes adultery as "innocent party" but ALJC does not recognize right to remarry under any circumstances. I truly believe that God forgives even divorce and once repented of frees anyone to remarry. I believe I have scripture to back it up. We have several threads on this issue, but the world we live in, with over 50% of marriages, in or out of the church, ending in divorce - we would have a lot of frustrated single people if they could not remarry.


There are rarely any innocent parties in a divorce. Some individuals would never commit adultry if they had multiple needs not getting met, having little to nothing to do with sex. It takes three in any marriage; i.e., husband, wife, and Jesus. Leave any one of the three not committed tot he success of the marriage then it will end in divorce.

Blessings, Rhoni

Since two become as ONE, both are either guilty or innocent., whatever the case may be.
It is a duty for both to keep their marrige together., whatever it takes.
Soooo, NO I don't believe that the "innocent"(?) may remarry.
Adults can surely KNOW better., but will use whatever argument or excuse to get ones WAY.
I've seen someone hold on to the vows even w/infidelity of the other spouse, then when someone very attractive and available came along - boom! All of a sudden this 'excuse' is brought up before ALL and obtains divorce only to immediately remarry., THAT one was just as guilty of having the kind of impulses (fleshly attraction) that the other one whom was unfaithful, DID. ALL humans are as capable of sin as the other., there is no way either is "innocent"., one just did it FIRST.
Perhaps it should be an issue of "first" vs "second" instead of "innocent" vs guilty. *shrug*
The one remarrying is sleeping with someone other than the one spouse allowed; I see it simply [logic] enough- while either one is alive, they kill (by divorce) the "till death do us part" vow they made when getting married., when/if they do "remarry"., GOD is not mocked.
Never mind "frustrated" gee if someone can't get a handle on their flesh, they make light of the power/strength GOD can provide.
I also see it as abuse when people say "OH, GOD forgives anything"., well of course He is a very forgiving GOD, yet He is also "righteous" and very 'legalistic' (if you will) about HIS WORD which is basically His LAW., this is of course JMHO Men often use "legalistic, legalism" but it is a man-made term, and GOD is unique., His ways are not our ways - why do people pretend to FORGET this? One canot claim to love and follow JEsUS without knowing Him and His WORD, which does say this!
OUR WAYS ARE NOT HIS WAYS!

[gloryseeker]

Originally Posted by simplyme

Since two become as ONE, both are either guilty or innocent., whatever the case may be.

This is where living in a theoretic world will get you messed up. What you have said sounds really good and really spiritual, but is really absurd.

The next line of your quote, which I didn't include talked about both should do everything they can to keep the marriage together. I totally agree with that. But consider the marriage of a physically abusive husband. Is the wife guilty of being beaten? Is it her fault? I don't care if she is the biggest...well I won't say...in town she doesn't deserve to be hit.

In the case of adultery, the husband (or wife) may have yielded themself to a spirit of lust of which the other spouse had no control over. Or possible one spouse starts using drugs, the reoccurrance of an old habit, it's not the other persons fault.

While it does take two to make a marriage work one can give 150% while the other gives nothing so just because the two became one does not mean other is at fault.

Let me take this a step further. Many think that because a woman is married to a Pastor that it makes her a Pastor also. NOT! Tell me what Peter's wife did? We know he was married and as one of the most powerful of the Apostle's this theology would surely make her an Apostle also.

This "two becomes one" is taken into realms that cannot be supported too often.