Which is more painful?

[Esther]

I know I have experience both.

When my brother that is young than I am died suddenly from a heart attack, it was such a shock that my heart literally ached.

But I also have experience, more than once, intense pain that would not go away without major surgery.

It is hard for me to decide which is the greatest. I guess at the time whichever you are dealing with at that moment is of course the greatest at that time. But which last the longest? Usually, emotional.