remove earrings

[houston]

Ah. No one has noticed. I don't wear them around church people, out of respect. Lately I have been feeling like I shouldn't walk on egg shells. I mean, come on, I have always gone out of my way to be respectful and to keep from offending the brethren. But that is a one way street. I am tired of making accommidations.

[Amanah]

Originally Posted by houston

Ah. No one has noticed. I don't wear them around church people, out of respect. Lately I have been feeling like I shouldn't walk on egg shells. I mean, come on, I have always gone out of my way to be respectful and to keep from offending the brethren. But that is a one way street. I am tired of making accommidations.

taking jewelry off to to go church is a small accomodation, especially if there are any young men who are looking at you as an example.

[Bella1]

I do not see the difference in wearing a "very thin" bracelet or necklace or small earrings. Why you ask? Because those Terrible HUGE Flower pins with feathers in our hair and on our clothing is more gaudy and distracting than any gold or silver jewerly I see most people wearing. These flowers for the head and the clothing has taken on a life of their own. IMO.

[Amanah]

Originally Posted by Bella1

I do not see the difference in wearing a "very thin" bracelet or necklace or small earrings. Why you ask? Because those Terrible HUGE Flower pins with feathers in our hair and on our clothing is more gaudy and distracting than any gold or silver jewerly I see most people wearing. These flowers for the head and the clothing has taken on a life of their own. IMO.

well i cant argue with you on that, but

When I was a part of and ultra con church, I lived the standards because of the teen agers I taught in Sunday School.

Which was a bit of a trial as they are smart as a whip and kept asking me, why we have standards and they didn't see it in the bible and blah blah

Which caused me to go to the pastor in pure exasperation and say: "I can't really defend the standards we are preaching, can you help me"

Funny thing was, it wasn't much longer after that that the church quit preaching standards, changed it's name and became a TD Jakesque church.

At which time I quit going to church all together for awhile.

You know, come to think of it, I may be the wrong person to ask.

[scotty]

Originally Posted by houston

Should a person remove his or her earrings to take a leadership position in church?

OR

should the person wear them, but not to church?

Were you offered a leadership position ? Did they tell you that you had to remove them ? Why would you wear them outside the church and not in ? From the way you post you don't seem to care one way or another what people think your going to wear them anyway so whats the point of the thread ?

[Aquila]

Originally Posted by houston

Should a person remove his or her earrings to take a leadership position in church?

OR

should the person wear them, but not to church?

Personally, I think one should submit to the standards of leadership in their local church. Some churches may have a standard of conduct for leaders. It may not be salvational, just how the ministry of the church wishes to be preceived by the community at large. Other churches might be more "cutting edge" or "relevant" and not have an issue with it. I'd say abide by the churches standards of conduct.

As for general membership, I would make no issue about it with regards to women. I might jokingly chide men with earrings because of my upbringing. But I'd NEVER throw anyone out of church or condemn them over an earring.

[Bella1]

Originally Posted by Aquila

Personally, I think one should submit to the standards of leadership in their local church. Some churches may have a standard of conduct for leaders. It may not be salvational, just how the ministry of the church wishes to be preceived by the community at large. Other churches might be more "cutting edge" or "relevant" and not have an issue with it. I'd say abide by the churches standards of conduct.

As for general membership, I would make no issue about it with regards to women. I might jokingly chide men with earrings because of my upbringing. But I'd NEVER throw anyone out of church or condemn them over an earring.

Although I do not believe in all the standards of the UPC churches that I have attended, when I was in ministry, I abided by what the leadership team wanted/designated for us to dress like. I was never disobedient to my leaders. I also do not believe it is salvational on some levels, but if you want to participate in a UPC, you do what you have to do, keep you mouth shut and don't say what you do or don't like doing (or get out of ministry)

[MawMaw]

Originally Posted by houston

Should a person remove his or her earrings to take a leadership position in church?

OR

should the person wear them, but not to church?

I know of one church that asks any in leadership to please not wear their jewelry on the platform. I don't understand that. If they are okay with them wearing their jewelry anywhere else? Seems very hypocritical to me.

[RandyWayne]

The only piece of "jewelry" I wear, and WILL ever wear, is my wedding ring. I almost never take it off. However if I was asked to perform some function at church AND was told to take it off as a requirement, I would not -nor would I perform the function I was asked or invited to do. What I would NOT do is somehow demand that I still be allowed to do the job AND wear my ring. I figure it is their court - their rules, as the saying goes, and I can choose to play or not play there.

[houston]

RANDY... thanks.