Authority of Pastors

[High & Low]

I heard a WPF pastor say that a Woman should follow her husband as he follows Christ. But if her husband isn't living right, she should follow the Pastor. .....I know WPF is an organization that puts Pastors on a pedestal. Someone please tell me where there is Scripture that gives Pastors so much control and authority. ....please don't waste your time,....just tell me WHY Pastors think they have full authority over their congregants and why they believe God only speaks to them regarding certain situations and when a person says they have prayed about it and that answer is contrary to what the Pastor told them, the Pastor tells them that they didn't hear from God and to keep praying about it.

Scripture says the gifts and calling of God are without Repentance. My feel of things is that God can speak thru anybody for the sake of his people, but that even tho there are many many proclaimed Men of God, there are really very few true Men of God. Any thoughts?