Writing a letter to my pastor - Page 6

thaddaeus417 · #51 09-29-2013, 07:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Originalist

I am 48 years old. I came to the Lord and received the Holy Ghost in 1980, just 2 weeks after my 15th birthday. I have been at this church for three years and started attending here due to a geographical relocation. I was a member of the church where I previously attended for 17 years. I have a long way to go, but I passed spiritual adolescence long ago.

It is interesting that your default position is to defend the pastor. Why is that? Why do you think I should stay?

Have you read my other threads that describe what my family has been through, and recent comments of my pastor?

I am not defending him and I do believe what you have said is the truth. Why should you stay? I just don't want to be another guy who tells someone I do not know what they want to hear.

So, thinking about how horribly Saul treated David, he (David) humbled himself and endured the mistreatment. He did what was right in the Lord's eye and as his reward for being faithful was that he was made King.

Sabby · #52 09-29-2013, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Originalist

I am 48 years old. I came to the Lord and received the Holy Ghost in 1980, just 2 weeks after my 15th birthday. I have been at this church for three years and started attending here due to a geographical relocation. I was a member of the church where I previously attended for 17 years. I have a long way to go, but I passed spiritual adolescence long ago.

It is interesting that your default position is to defend the pastor. Why is that? Why do you think I should stay?

Have you read my other threads that describe what my family has been through, and recent comments of my pastor?

Brother, I get the impression - correct me if I'm wrong - that your history with said pastor isn't warm. If the feeling is mutual there is NOTHING you will be able to do to prevent being what Navy Goat said you will be: sermon fodder. This in spite of any and everything you have tried to do to toe the line. It's just how the machine works.
I would liken it to the practice of seeking the pastor's "blessing".
Some of the older ones on this forum might remember that as being the only way you could ever leave a local church.
If the pastor suspects that you might be a little "inconsistent" in attendance, or a little "weak on the doctrine", you are suspected of "not tithing" or of being disloyal, there is NOTHING you will be able to do to prevent the backwash from your leaving.
Brother, just follow the leading of the Lord. We are a digitized society, but something like this should be done with face-time: man of God to man of God. If he blows you off, do the same.

Seriously, if God has told you to do something, then DO IT. Don't sit and rot on the pew due to fear, apprehension, or being told you are not "ready". From the sounds of it, you've been "in training" for some time.

Sabby · #53 09-29-2013, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Originalist

I am 48 years old. I came to the Lord and received the Holy Ghost in 1980, just 2 weeks after my 15th birthday. I have been at this church for three years and started attending here due to a geographical relocation. I was a member of the church where I previously attended for 17 years. I have a long way to go, but I passed spiritual adolescence long ago.

It is interesting that your default position is to defend the pastor. Why is that? Why do you think I should stay?

Have you read my other threads that describe what my family has been through, and recent comments of my pastor?

Brother, I get the impression - correct me if I'm wrong - that your history with said pastor isn't warm. If the feeling is mutual there is NOTHING you will be able to do to prevent being what Navy Goat said you will be: sermon fodder. This in spite of any and everything you have tried to do to toe the line. It's just how the machine works.
I would liken it to the practice of seeking the pastor's "blessing".
Some of the older ones on this forum might remember that as being the only way you could ever leave a local church.
If the pastor suspects that you might be a little "inconsistent" in attendance, or a little "weak on the doctrine", you are suspected of "not tithing" or of being disloyal, there is NOTHING you will be able to do to prevent the backwash from your leaving.
Brother, just follow the leading of the Lord. We are a digitized society, but something like this should be done with face-time: man of God to man of God. If he blows you off, do the same.

Seriously, if God has told you to do something, then DO IT. Don't sit and rot on the pew due to fear, apprehension, or being told you are not "ready". From the sounds of it, you've been "in training" for some time.

Jermyn Davidson · #54 09-29-2013, 08:01 PM

His Pastor will not blow him off. That would make this situation too easy.

houston · #55 09-29-2013, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Jermyn Davidson

His Pastor will not blow him off. That would make this situation too easy.

You do not know that.

Originalist · #56 09-29-2013, 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Sabby

Brother, I get the impression - correct me if I'm wrong - that your history with said pastor isn't warm. If the feeling is mutual there is NOTHING you will be able to do to prevent being what Navy Goat said you will be: sermon fodder. This in spite of any and everything you have tried to do to toe the line. It's just how the machine works.
I would liken it to the practice of seeking the pastor's "blessing".
Some of the older ones on this forum might remember that as being the only way you could ever leave a local church.
If the pastor suspects that you might be a little "inconsistent" in attendance, or a little "weak on the doctrine", you are suspected of "not tithing" or of being disloyal, there is NOTHING you will be able to do to prevent the backwash from your leaving.
Brother, just follow the leading of the Lord. We are a digitized society, but something like this should be done with face-time: man of God to man of God. If he blows you off, do the same.

Seriously, if God has told you to do something, then DO IT. Don't sit and rot on the pew due to fear, apprehension, or being told you are not "ready". From the sounds of it, you've been "in training" for some time.

As far as I know, there has never been any issue between us. Since November of last year, when I started working 7 days a week , he has seemed to become a little distant, and especially in the past month. Now in all fairness, Me only being in one service a week for 5 months, and then out the area for 2 months straight, may have caused him to focus on other areas. Out of sight out of mind. He has never acted confrontational or like a dictator. I choose to give him grace and will do so even if our "talk" does not go well. I will choose to believe God for any wrong perceptions to be cleared up on either one of our parts, and I will prayerfully consider any constructive criticism he may offer.

Sabby · #57 09-29-2013, 08:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Originalist

As far as I know, there has never been any issue between us. Since November of last year, when I started working 7 days a week , he has seemed to become a little distant, and especially in the past month. Now in all fairness, Me only being in one service a week for 5 months, and then out the area for 2 months straight, may have caused him to focus on other areas. Out of sight out of mind. He has never acted confrontational or like a dictator. I choose to give him grace and will do so even if our "talk" does not go well. I will choose to believe God for any wrong perceptions to be cleared up on either one of our parts, and I will prayerfully consider any constructive criticism he may offer.

If he is a godly man he will be entreated and will have a good spirit. Face-time is the best "method", imo, but to each his own.

God bless you in the Kingdom!

Jermyn Davidson · #58 09-29-2013, 09:02 PM

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Originally Posted by houston

You do not know that.

99.9999999% sure that the Pastor that had enough confidence in him to support his Missionary endeavors not even a year ago will not blow that same Missionary off.

All Pastors are human. Most Pastors care for their members and the leaders they have established within their congregations.

Steve Epley · #59 09-30-2013, 06:05 AM

Just an observation most folks advising don't have a pastor and some do not even attend an Apostolic church. Remember what David said about the counsel of the ungodly.

johnny44 · #60 09-30-2013, 07:06 AM

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Originally Posted by thaddaeus417

I am not defending him and I do believe what you have said is the truth. Why should you stay? I just don't want to be another guy who tells someone I do not know what they want to hear.

So, thinking about how horribly Saul treated David, he (David) humbled himself and endured the mistreatment. He did what was right in the Lord's eye and as his reward for being faithful was that he was made King.

The anointed of God fled from Gods anointed.