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Originally Posted by Thad

and not checking for typos

You, oh mighty one, are the master!

[AmazingGrace]

Originally Posted by philjones

You, oh mighty one, are the master!

let that be the understatement of the week!!! LOL

Originally Posted by Thad

I don't think you should send an email AQgirl- I just think it's best not to.

He has not e-mailed me back so he maybe scared of me. LOL!!! I just ask him if he had heard from some mutual friends or knew how I could contact them.

[Thad]

Originally Posted by aquestioninggirl

He has not e-mailed me back so he maybe scared of me. LOL!!! I just ask him if he had heard from some mutual friends or knew how I could contact them.

HELP her Lord!!!

[Coffee99]

Originally Posted by Thad

your post offers a lot of hope and encouragement. I don't think it was a good idea to reveal that it was your father though

With all due respect, Thad, it is not your choice to make nor your place to judge.

The people with whom my mother and I associate and love found out years ago and it makes no difference to them about how they feel about my mother or my family - in fact, it eased many burdens for her.

My father certainly became more than happy to tell once he "found his freedom."

I've been where this family is. My mother has been where this family is. I KNOW what it's like to wonder, as one of the "children" if I'm going to be gay because he is or if I caused it and 100 other emotions and worries that you don't have a clue about, but these children will experience. I know what it's like to have serious issues in trying to trust enough to form a marital relationship because he/she might be gay. Fortunately, for these children, there is less stigma attached to them than there was when my father revealed all.

My mother knows what it is like to have the whispers and the gossip and the looks of pity and the stupid comments like if she had been a better wife, maybe she could have "cured" him. We know what it's like to doubt, to not feel like you will ever trust again, to feel betrayed, used, to feel stupid, to doubt EVERY encounter you ever had with him...

What I want this family to know, from a place of first-hand experience, is that the sun eventually shines again, it does make you stronger, you do laugh about some of this one day, and it is possible for their daughter to find a joyous marital relationship, and for the children to reach a place where they can find peace.

If it helps this family, then why should I be afraid to say it was my father. Maybe we went through it so we can help others who are in this very, very dark and troubled space.

Originally Posted by Coffee99

With all due respect, Thad, it is not your choice to make nor your place to judge.

The people with whom my mother and I associate and love found out years ago and it makes no difference to them about how they feel about my mother or my family - in fact, it eased many burdens for her.

My father certainly became more than happy to tell once he "found his freedom."

I've been where this family is. My mother has been where this family is. I KNOW what it's like to wonder, as one of the "children" if I'm going to be gay because he is or if I caused it and 100 other emotions and worries that you don't have a clue about, but these children will experience. I know what it's like to have serious issues in trying to trust enough to form a marital relationship because he/she might be gay. Fortunately, for these children, there is less stigma attached to them than there was when my father revealed all.

My mother knows what it is like to have the whispers and the gossip and the looks of pity and the stupid comments like if she had been a better wife, maybe she could have "cured" him. We know what it's like to doubt, to not feel like you will ever trust again, to feel betrayed, used, to feel stupid, to doubt EVERY encounter you ever had with him...

What I want this family to know, from a place of first-hand experience, is that the sun eventually shines again, it does make you stronger, you do laugh about some of this one day, and it is possible for their daughter to find a joyous marital relationship, and for the children to reach a place where they can find peace.

If it helps this family, then why should I be afraid to say it was my father. Maybe we went through it so we can help others who are in this very, very dark and troubled space.

I can only say THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for sharing. You are right and right again. Every word. As I read your first comment and then this one that followed I felt your intensity. I felt the hurt and gammet of emotions. We have known for several months now and although it is not any more acceptable, you just begin to breathe easier. You know, without the crushing weight. Then one day it is not your first and seemingly only thought of the day and soon it is not your constant thought, until, you can go maybe 2 or 3 days at a time without thinking about it so much. What helps us is that Christian is truly repentant about the deception of the years. He apologizes everytime we talk. You have given me hope.

Originally Posted by aquestioninggirl

He has not e-mailed me back so he maybe scared of me. LOL!!! I just ask him if he had heard from some mutual friends or knew how I could contact them.

Trust me, he ain't a skeered (as they say in the sticks of Ar). LOL He takes several days to answer all his emails because of his time constraints and volume of emails he gets. He is also extremely removed now from his old life and old friends. He will answer new ones first. Be persistent if you really want to chat with him and he will get around to you. He works around the clock, 3 jobs, trying to make things up to Tarah.

Originally Posted by aquestioninggirl

Wow!!! What a strong woman she is!! I truly admire her. She should write a book to help other women!!!

I gotta say both of my daughters are incredible writers and have actually started a manuscript. Although their stories are different they are both full of sorrow, love gone awry, and learning to trust God through it all....against all odds. They have both survived great cruelties and are still making their journey back to their God given place of ministry. They are amazing to me. So absolute in faith. Thank you for those kind words. If they get published i will let ya know. ;}

Originally Posted by aquestioninggirl

I hope ya'll are carful!! It sure is rainy and yucky and cold today.

Thank you...it was truly terrible weather today. We had to leave around 6:00
this morning to get to her appt. on time. Then it was one of those days when everything we had to do took way longer than it normally does. We got back home at around 7:00 tonight and had to get the kiddos fed and in bed and she is exhausted. So is her mama!!! LOL I actually had someone pull out and almost hit me. If there had been a car in the righthand lane...we would have been in trouble. Thank you God once again for your protection and your angels.

Originally Posted by Thad

HELP her Lord!!!

THAD..If you haven't already..go to christian's myspace page and check his new blog entitled The Bottom Line..... In it he references all of us on here and what's been going on the last few days, briefly, and then tells what he believes now in a nut shell. Thought you might find it interesting or new fodder if folks are not done with this subject. I check his page frequently and he never disappoints.