I can't stand someone!!!

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Originally Posted by hnhisle

Oh my ! I soon will be new where we are moving. Lord HELP ME !!!

Girl! Who would not like you?!!! You'll be fine. We have some friends coming to see us at the end of May who live in Alaska! Excited to see them! I'm sure he won't want to stick around the Texas coastal weather for long. LOL!

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Okay, Mizpeh! I'm going to start reading Romans 12. I hope you will all pray for me tonight. I really would like to see a change in both of us, but mainly in ME! If I can change, I will be all right!

[Bella1]

My family and I switched churches about 19 months ago after going to another church for 14 years.

For about 9-10 month, we sat and worshiped at the new church. No one really bothered us and we really did not try to make friends. Then we joined the choir and praise team. There was one lady who became a absolute thorn in my side. I literally cried every night when I went home because I had to sing with her. But know one knew except my husband how I felt.

Even though I am a confrontational person, I decided to just wait it out and see if the problem was with me or her. Because I have such a strong and outgoing personality, I assumed that she thought I was going to take over her spot on the praise team or something.

Well, all these months later and she is still not my favorite person She has not jerked the microphone out of my hand in quite awhile or asked the sound me to turn me down. I leave the lady alone. I very seldom speak to her. I go the the platform and give God all I can. Then I listen to the preaching and go home.

I am not at church to make friends, although I desire to and do have lots of buddies. If one person affects me negitivally, I just remove them from my circle of people. I do not like to offend anyone, although sometime people do say when they first meet me, they are petrified of me. ????? I honestly don't know why.

So yes. Everyone has that special Someone that is going to be that "person you just can't stand".

[Cindy]

Originally Posted by Bella1

My family and I switched churches about 19 months ago after going to another church for 14 years.

For about 9-10 month, we sat and worshiped at the new church. No one really bothered us and we really did not try to make friends. Then we joined the choir and praise team. There was one lady who became a absolute thorn in my side. I literally cried every night when I went home because I had to sing with her. But know one knew except my husband how I felt.

Even though I am a confrontational person, I decided to just wait it out and see if the problem was with me or her. Because I have such a strong and outgoing personality, I assumed that she thought I was going to take over her spot on the praise team or something.

Well, all these months later and she is still not my favorite person She has not jerked the microphone out of my hand in quite awhile or asked the sound me to turn me down. I leave the lady alone. I very seldom speak to her. I go the the platform and give God all I can. Then I listen to the preaching and go home.

I am not at church to make friends, although I desire to and do have lots of buddies. If one person affects me negitivally, I just remove them from my circle of people. I do not like to offend anyone, although sometime people do say when they first meet me, they are petrified of me. ????? I honestly don't know why.

So yes. Everyone has that special Someone that is going to be that "person you just can't stand".

So you go to church with PO?................

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Bella1

My family and I switched churches about 19 months ago after going to another church for 14 years.

For about 9-10 month, we sat and worshiped at the new church. No one really bothered us and we really did not try to make friends. Then we joined the choir and praise team. There was one lady who became a absolute thorn in my side. I literally cried every night when I went home because I had to sing with her. But know one knew except my husband how I felt.

Even though I am a confrontational person, I decided to just wait it out and see if the problem was with me or her. Because I have such a strong and outgoing personality, I assumed that she thought I was going to take over her spot on the praise team or something.

Well, all these months later and she is still not my favorite person She has not jerked the microphone out of my hand in quite awhile or asked the sound me to turn me down. I leave the lady alone. I very seldom speak to her. I go the the platform and give God all I can. Then I listen to the preaching and go home.

I am not at church to make friends, although I desire to and do have lots of buddies. If one person affects me negitivally, I just remove them from my circle of people. I do not like to offend anyone, although sometime people do say when they first meet me, they are petrified of me. ????? I honestly don't know why.

So yes. Everyone has that special Someone that is going to be that "person you just can't stand".

Bella,
I appreciate how you handled the situation. That was the wisest and best way!

I am not a confrontational person, but I will take up for myself if confronted. I don't recall ever getting into a heated altercation, at any time, since being in church. I just verified that with my husband and he said he doesn't recall that has ever happened. Just wanted to be sure! LOL

After some of my posting here, I wasn't sure anyone would believe that!

The worse thing that I have done is remind a pastor's wife that her own mother said that she was a smart aleck. I was very ladylike when I addressed the issue. I thought she might need to know that. Don't mess with my children - ever! I also thought that if I wasn't in church I would like to waylay her. But, I got through that one and they moved and are tormenting another congregation. Praise the Lord!

My very worst fault is that I am not perfect, but I am a perfectionist. I want everything organized, laid out and on schedule. I'm sure that does annoy people. I want no excuses. Frankly, people are so lazy and unproductive these days. That is very annoying to me. Just do it and do it right - the first time!!!!!!! Whew, I need something to drink!!!

I don't go to church to make best friends, because I do draw a circle around my privacy and, well, even though invisible, you can't cross it. In doing that I am not the one that gets the calls concerning gossip, etc. That does save me some aggravation. Hey, it works for me.

One of my good qualities, even though I'm a private person, I do try to include everyone when we are together. I try to make everyone feel welcome and involved. Even when we were doing our Easter program, I made sure that all actors were happy with the fabric colors, texture, etc. in their costumes. That is a little way, for me, to show that I value them as a person. I don't know if they see that or not, but it's something I need to do for myself.

I have seen a tremendous insecurity in this woman, for whatever reason, and happened to hear her speaking about a book she was reading on that very subject - being intimidated. That allowed me to know it was a big issue for her. After I get past her defensive attitude, by not feeding it, I'm sure she will see that I am not here to hurt her in any way.

For the most part, in all honesty, we've been through a rough time in the last three or four years and I think I forgot to be on guard for - "the love of many shall wax cold." I don't want that to happen to me. This was a wake up call to watch my attitude and spend more time with God that He would fill me with His love, thereby, extending that love to others. God is good. I am thankful He has helped me nip this in the bud!

[Kay B]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

Girl! Who would not like you?!!! You'll be fine. We have some friends coming to see us at the end of May who live in Alaska! Excited to see them! I'm sure he won't want to stick around the Texas coastal weather for long. LOL!

Well I'm praying Texas has a cool summer this year. I'm sure your friends hope so too.
The past few weeks here have been drop dead gorgeous and HOT. I even got a bit of a sunburn yesterday sitting outside!

[MissBrattified]

PO, pray for her, and it will be therapeutic for you!!! And ask God to give you the wisdom to deal with her personality. I think some of the most difficult people to deal with are those who have been hurt.

However, I DO know what you mean. And...that's as far as I'll go with that!

[Ron]

PO, prayer you can use!


Dear Lord, So far today, I am doing ok. I have not gossiped, lost my temper, been greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish, or self-indulgent. I have not whined, complained, or eaten any chocolate. I have charged nothing on my credit cards.....

But, I will be getting out of bed in a minute and I will really need Your help then.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Ron

PO, prayer you can use!


Dear Lord, So far today, I am doing ok. I have not gossiped, lost my temper, been greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish, or self-indulgent. I have not whined, complained, or eaten any chocolate. I have charged nothing on my credit cards.....

But, I will be getting out of bed in a minute and I will really need Your help then.

Well, I might struggle with everything above except for Chocolate. I know I won't be eating that. It could have been the lesser of the evils though.

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RENDA!!! Do you remember that thread you started showing people on a journey carrying their cross with the one guy complaining and wanting it cut down? When he gets to the ravine, he can't get across?

A friend of mine from Austin just sent that to me a few minutes ago!!! Now that is very timely!!! I know someone is praying for me!!!

And it ends....


Whatever your cross,
Whatever your pain,
There will always be sunshine, after the rain....
Perhaps you may stumble, perhaps even fall;
But God's always ready, to answer your call....
He knows every heartache, sees every tear,
A word from His lips, can calm every fear...
Your sorrows may linger, throughout the night,
But suddenly vanish, by dawn's early light...
The Savior is waiting, somewhere above,
To give you His grace, and send you His love.
May God fill your day with blessings!!


Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle!