21st Century Plague: Domineering, Bossy Women

[Cindy]

Originally Posted by Edward Anglin

She only gets mad when I don't take her.

[MissBrattified]

Well, first of all, being in charge of something--whether it be home or elsewhere--does not make a woman bossy or domineering. It's the attitude with which she handles her responsibilities that convey a meek and quiet spirit. Even a leader can be meek. In fact, the best ones usually are.

Secondly, it's important (IMO) to remember 4 things:

1. It's a serious problem when men are selfish, self-centered, interested only in what serves their needs and wants--this is the opposite of what Christian men are supposed to do. They are supposed to love their wives. They are serve the needs of their household, and love unconditionally and sacrificially.

2. It's a serious problem when women buck against leadership. (Also a problem when men do this, but this thread seems to be focused on women.) Christian women should see to their God-given priorities, love their husbands and submit to the authority of God and husband alike.

3. The woman cannot make the man love her, and when she tries, she will be seen by him in a negative light. Therefore, she shouldn't try to make the man love her--she should just be lovable.

4. The man should not (EVER) "make" the wife submit. Making a woman (or anyone) submit defies the very principle of submission, and it becomes subservience instead. A man who forces his wife to bend to his will, will not be able to earn her trust--OR her willing submission. Furthermore, a man who does this is abusing the authority and position that God gave him and is in a very precarious position spiritually. He should just love her unconditionally and sacrificially "as Christ loves the church" and leave the rest between her and God.

Now I'm ready to talk about this thread.

[EA]

Originally Posted by MissBrattified

Well, first of all, being in charge of something--whether it be home or elsewhere--does not make a woman bossy or domineering. It's the attitude with which she handles her responsibilities that convey a meek and quiet spirit. Even a leader can be meek. In fact, the best ones usually are.

Secondly, it's important (IMO) to remember 4 things:

1. It's a serious problem when men are selfish, self-centered, interested only in what serves their needs and wants--this is the opposite of what Christian men are supposed to do. They are supposed to love their wives. They are serve the needs of their household, and love unconditionally and sacrificially.

2. It's a serious problem when women buck against leadership. (Also a problem when men do this, but this thread seems to be focused on women.) Christian women should see to their God-given priorities, love their husbands and submit to the authority of God and husband alike.

3. The woman cannot make the man love her, and when she tries, she will be seen by him in a negative light. Therefore, she shouldn't try to make the man love her--she should just be lovable.

4. The man should not (EVER) "make" the wife submit. Making a woman (or anyone) submit defies the very principle of submission, and it becomes subservience instead. A man who forces his wife to bend to his will, will not be able to earn her trust--OR her willing submission. Furthermore, a man who does this is abusing the authority and position that God gave him and is in a very precarious position spiritually. He should just love her unconditionally and sacrificially "as Christ loves the church" and leave the rest between her and God.

Now I'm ready to talk about this thread.

Our dear MissBrattified.

Opening a can with her bare hands.

[MissBrattified]

For the record, when I'm cross, I get bossy. I stop trying to phrase things nicely, and it usually means I'm tired. It doesn't mean I have bad character. LOL!!!

However, I have seen women berate their husbands publicly--and its sickening. It's also sickening to see parents berate their children harshly, or to see men treat their wives like they're second rate citizens.

I'm not a fan of the "mutual submission" set, however when a husband and wife serve one another in love, things tend to just go nicely all around. Usually the domineering, abusive, dictatorial traits come into play when one or the other is trying to force their spouse to give in, to be what they want them to be.

Men who truly love and serve their wives (and children) don't seem to have too much trouble with submission. They also don't mind if their wife asks them to fix the guttering and paint the garage on the weekend. Or if their kids ask them for a couple hours of bike riding time.

True leaders give of themselves for the good of "the people." Even when those people are annoying.

Well, this is full circle. LOL!!! I must not be in the mood to line up my own gender tonight.

I'm tired. That's the problem. My kids had money to spend today, and we've been in Tulsa since 12:30 p.m. (Just got home at 10:00) That is TOO LONG to shop with three kids, one of whom is 6!!!!

[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by Edward Anglin

Our dear MissBrattified.

Opening a can with her bare hands.

Worms are great protein...so I hear.

[MissBrattified]

I just think it's impossible to only talk about one side of this issue. Sometimes women are domineering because they've had to be. Maybe they grew up in a one parent household and they were in charge of everything while their mother was working two jobs, maybe they took care of younger siblings and went to work at 15. Maybe they've had to fight for themselves, fend off mean boyfriends, etc.

Quite simply, in today's culture, many women just don't know what it means to be feminine and strong at the same time. They think strength is loud, masculine, aggressive, or even violent. In the meantime, while millions of women strive to become men, men are told they are wrong for just being masculine, so they are cowering in corners of political correctness, weakness, and developing feminine characteristics.

It's a very mixed up world we live in. The only way to combat it that I can see is to address it from scripture. It's very important, though, that it be done with balance, and that husbands aren't led into being dictators, and women aren't led into being doormats.

[stmatthew]

I seem to remember there is a line in the "This Train is Bound for Glory" song that states that bossy women and sissy men cannot ride on the train.

[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by stmatthew

I seem to remember there is a line in the "This Train is Bound for Glory" song that states that bossy women and sissy men cannot ride on the train.

Also a verse about roller skates. I'm not depending on those lyrics!

[Sam]

Originally Posted by MissBrattified

Well, first of all, being in charge of something--whether it be home or elsewhere--does not make a woman bossy or domineering. It's the attitude with which she handles her responsibilities that convey a meek and quiet spirit. Even a leader can be meek. In fact, the best ones usually are.

Secondly, it's important (IMO) to remember 4 things:

1. It's a serious problem when men are selfish, self-centered, interested only in what serves their needs and wants--this is the opposite of what Christian men are supposed to do. They are supposed to love their wives. They are serve the needs of their household, and love unconditionally and sacrificially.

2. It's a serious problem when women buck against leadership. (Also a problem when men do this, but this thread seems to be focused on women.) Christian women should see to their God-given priorities, love their husbands and submit to the authority of God and husband alike.

3. The woman cannot make the man love her, and when she tries, she will be seen by him in a negative light. Therefore, she shouldn't try to make the man love her--she should just be lovable.

4. The man should not (EVER) "make" the wife submit. Making a woman (or anyone) submit defies the very principle of submission, and it becomes subservience instead. A man who forces his wife to bend to his will, will not be able to earn her trust--OR her willing submission. Furthermore, a man who does this is abusing the authority and position that God gave him and is in a very precarious position spiritually. He should just love her unconditionally and sacrificially "as Christ loves the church" and leave the rest between her and God.

Now I'm ready to talk about this thread.

I think you have said that very well.

[RandyWayne]

Sometimes "domineering" isn't all that bad.......

Like on birthdays.....

.....anniversaries......

.............or just to say "I love you".