Sister Wives - Page 11

ILG · #**101** 03-28-2011, 11:30 AM

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Where you from? I was around a large Hmong population in Hickory, NC. THere is a Hmong UPC church there.

Wisconsin.

MissBrattified · #**102** 03-28-2011, 11:31 AM

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You have a good point there. Perhaps legalization would help the problem of abuse rather than make it worse.

Re your comment about the husband's "skills". I think some women just don't have any drive. I don't like the idea that men on here reading might think it's all about their skills. Sometimes women just don't feel like it.

Fair enough (and true)...but my husband can usually put me in the right frame of mind, with a little effort....

Reminds me of a wonderful chocolate cake made by one of my best friends - we affectionately call it the "BTS" cake (Better Than Sex). I suppose it depends on your perspective, whether you can really call the cake BTS.

ILG · #**103** 03-28-2011, 11:33 AM

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Fair enough (and true)...but my husband can usually put me in the right frame of mind, with a little effort....

Reminds me of a wonderful chocolate cake made by one of my best friends - we affectionately call it the "BTS" cake (Better Than Sex). I suppose it depends on your perspective, whether you can really call the cake BTS.

It seems to change with age.

BeenThinkin · #**104** 03-28-2011, 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by MissBrattified

Fair enough (and true)...but my husband can usually put me in the right frame of mind, with a little effort....

Reminds me of a wonderful chocolate cake made by one of my best friends - we affectionately call it the "BTS" cake (Better Than Sex). I suppose it depends on your perspective, whether you can really call the cake BTS.

Would that be a "sugar free" BTS cake? Just wonderin'

Been Thinkin

Aquila · #**105** 03-28-2011, 11:48 AM

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That says a lot about the husband's "skills."

Considering all the other lifestyles that are lauded and supported, I'm not quite sure why polygamy shouldn't be allowed. I can see how it can create the potential for abusive situations, especially when religion is in charge of who marries whom, but I can also see some positives. (Many hands make light work, large family support system, etc.)

Not my cup of tea, to be sure, but I'm not sure I see serious problems with it either. It requires a certain mindset and cultural immersion to even be acceptable to a woman, so it wouldn't appeal to the vast majority of American women.

Also, while I don't agree with anyone being "forced" into marriage, there are marriages arranged all the time in other cultures, and it isn't seen as being forced; they're "arranged marriages." Again, not what I would want for my daughters, but if someone has been raised expecting that to happen, I'm not convinced that it's terribly harmful.

What is harmful is when a woman is in an abusive marriage that she can't escape, and she's fearful to go to law enforcement because they may prosecute her or take away her children simply for being in the situation to begin with. Legalizing polygamy could potentially provide protection for women and children who are in abusive situations but have nowhere to turn for help without getting themselves into trouble with the law.

Interesting perspective.... You mentioned having daughters. Could you support one of your daughters entering a polygamous marriage?

ILG · #**106** 03-28-2011, 12:21 PM

I would definitely not want my daughter in a polygamous marriage. But, some women would support that. They were probably raised that way.

Aquila · #**107** 03-28-2011, 12:57 PM

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I would definitely not want my daughter in a polygamous marriage. But, some women would support that. They were probably raised that way.

Even some not raised that way might support it, if it were their child's choice. The desire to see a child happy can cause us to accept their choices... even if we'd never make said choices ourselves.

ILG · #**108** 03-28-2011, 12:59 PM

Well, yeah, but it would be hard.

MissBrattified · #**109** 03-28-2011, 01:08 PM

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Interesting perspective.... You mentioned having daughters. Could you support one of your daughters entering a polygamous marriage?

No way! "Support" is subjective, though; an adult makes their own choices; my "support" or lack thereof is limited in scope. Whether my daughters will allow my opinions to have weight when they make life-altering choices remains to be seen.

onefaith2 · #**110** 03-28-2011, 01:10 PM

Maybe this is another alternative lifestyle emerging.