Single Apostolic Men -VS-Single Apostolic Mothers

[HeavenlyOne]

Originally Posted by missdkendall

But do you thing men in church look at the single apostolic mothers differently than they do the ones without children?

Depends on their maturity level.

For instance, I'm 38 years old. It's a given that I probably have children at my age. If someone looks down on me for that, they aren't mature enough to handle it, IMO.

However, if I were 17 with children, well, I can expect someone to look differently at me than if I were 38.

[missdkendall]

True..... I see your point. I find that a lot of Apostolic young men are very stuck-up. To meet someone that understands, they almost have to be older...

[TRFrance]

Originally Posted by missdkendall

True..... I see your point. I find that a lot of Apostolic young men are very stuck-up. To meet someone that understands, they almost have to be older...

I don't know if it's about being "stuck up" as much as it's about being relatively immature at younger ages. . Most 21 year old Apostolic men would not be open to the idea at all. But a lot more of them would at age 31.

More experience in life. More wisdom. More open-mindedness.

[IBCrazier2]

I would think there are many things that would be considered here....

Why does she have a child ....
Was she married ....
Was she in "Holy Ghost filled" when the thing happened ...
Where is the father ....
How old is this mother ....
How old is ths child ....
Hold old was the mother when she had this child ....


We live in a different age than we have ever lived in! I am gonna have ponder some things on this.

[missdkendall]

Originally Posted by IBCrazier2

I would think there are many things that would be considered here....

Why does she have a child .... she doesn't believe in abortion
Was she married .... no
Was she in "Holy Ghost filled" when the thing happened ... no
Where is the father .... no where to be found
How old is this mother .... in her twenties
How old is ths child .... 2
Hold old was the mother when she had this child .... in her twenties


We live in a different age than we have ever lived in! I am gonna have ponder some things on this.

Why does she have a child .... she doesn't believe in abortion
Was she married .... no
Was she in "Holy Ghost filled" when the thing happened ... no
Where is the father .... no where to be found
How old is this mother .... in her twenties
How old is ths child .... 2
Hold old was the mother when she had this child .... in her twenties

[King's Child]

Originally Posted by missdkendall

Why does she have a child .... she doesn't believe in abortion
Was she married .... no
Was she in "Holy Ghost filled" when the thing happened ... no
Where is the father .... no where to be found
How old is this mother .... in her twenties
How old is ths child .... 2
Hold old was the mother when she had this child .... in her twenties

Could it be that you are the mother?

Since I am not a man I can't answer from a man's perspective. From what I have seen there are men who won't have a problem with the woman having a child. My oldest son dated a girl that had a child. She was Holy Ghost filled. She had never been married. He had no problem with it. He was quite willing to support and love the little girl. So there are some guys who will take on a wife and a child.

[missdkendall]

No, but I have single mothers in my sunday school class that have recently been filled with the Holy Ghost, and the question came up in class Sunday. I was looking for different points of view to tell the girls. It seems as if most of the responses are coming from people that have not been in the situation. I haven't been their either, so I can't really understand the situation.

[ForeverBlessed]

Originally Posted by missdkendall

No, but I have single mothers in my sunday school class that have recently been filled with the Holy Ghost, and the question came up in class Sunday. I was looking for different points of view to tell the girls. It seems as if most of the responses are coming from people that have not been in the situation. I haven't been their either, so I can't really understand the situation.

well, I do believe it can happen.

My mother graduated from High School with honors and had my oldest sister 3 months later. She hid her pregnancy from her parents until after graduation....she was really little. She was raised in an upper middle class family where in the 40's, her siblings were college educated. My grandmother was Apostolic, but only came into the faith as an adult when her children were older. My mother never served the Lord as a teen... but was a popular student involved in honor society, cheerleading... So.. it can and does happen in the best of families.

My mother came to the Lord after my sister was born... she was musically talented and began directing choir/singing/playing piano in church.

She met and married a handsome young minister... they married I think in 1955... evangilized all over the country in the 50's and pastored for over 40 years. They went on to have 4 more children...and their youngest now pastors. I consider my pentecostal heritage a wonderful thing.

So, yep... there are men who are willing to marry women with children, even back in the 50s when things like this were almost unheard of and really shameful.

God can have wonderful plan for anyone who will devote their life to him and wait on him for the right person.


Personally however, I am the single divorced mom of three girls..raising now a 4th... and I have no intentions of marrying...or even trying to seriously date until my girls are raised. No way would I want to add a man to this mix.. lol

[IBCrazier2]

Originally Posted by missdkendall

Why does she have a child .... she doesn't believe in abortion
Was she married .... no
Was she in "Holy Ghost filled" when the thing happened ... no
Where is the father .... no where to be found
How old is this mother .... in her twenties
How old is ths child .... 2
Hold old was the mother when she had this child .... in her twenties

Guess what I was getting at was ...

If the girl was in the church and raised with morals then why would a guy want a wife that is always breaking the rules.
It would make a diference if it was out of rebellion or bad choices.

[missdkendall]

Originally Posted by IBCrazier2

Guess what I was getting at was ...

If the girl was in the church and raised with morals then why would a guy want a wife that is always breaking the rules.
It would make a diference if it was out of rebellion or bad choices.

This is what she told me. She was born and raised Apostolic. When she was in school she started hanging around the wrong people, and I guess she became a backslider. She just got refilled with the Holy ghost in a revival at our church. When she was out in the world, she made some bad choices, and now has a child. She is a great girl, just lost her way I guess you could say..