Your Greatest Hurt

[Hoovie]

Originally Posted by Amanah

My greatest hurt was when I lost my son, my only child in a motorcycle accident.

The way I got thru it was by resolutely committing myself to being disciplined in bible reading, prayer, and going to church even though I felt that God had abandoned me.

I told God that even though I did not feel close to him, and I blamed him for allowing this in my life, I also knew that he was God, and there was no one else I could turn to.

I told him that I would walk by faith putting one foot in front of the other day by day until I could find my way back to a close relationship with him again.

This November 15th will be the 3rd anniversary of Jason’s death.

I am irreparably damaged, but my relationship with God is steady and sure and at times a great comfort to me.

For you see, this is the common condition of humanity, pain, suffering, and eventually the loss of all we hold dear in this world.

In the end it all comes down to you and God and there is nothing else.

Originally Posted by Sarah

Oh Amanah....how my heart goes out to you! We too, lost a son, but it wasn't our only child. If it hasn't even been three years yet, you're still going through the 'fog'....that's the way I describe it, and I'm sure you know what I mean.

I've often said that I don't know how anyone can suffer a loss like that, and come out whole, if they don't know the Lord. Sometimes you just know in your heart that God is there, and cares, even when you don't feel a thing.

You are in my prayers and thoughts....

I am so sorry, and offer prayers for both of you.

[Amanah]

Originally Posted by Hoovie

I am so sorry, and offer prayers for both of you.

thank you, that means a lot to me

[Bella1]

When my husband hurt me, I had an affair to get back at him. I am still paying for that hurt today.

When my pastor and wife and his mother hurt me over and over, I became a fighter. With words, deeds, and actions. I have since forgiven them and I pray EVERY day that God restore an Agape love for them. I want me and them to make it to heaven. For without forgiveness and love, I can't make it in.

When my husband hurt me this last time, I left. I have been separated just past three years and currently have divorce papers in the works.

I totally rely on God. Trust is a very hard thing for me right now. I get physically sick it trust is even an issue. I have a hard time talking with people now. I used to be so open and trusting. Not any longer. Hurts too much to trust too deeply.

But all in all, I have become a stronger more confident person who KNOWS beyond a shadow of a doubt that God love me regardless of what I have done and said. He is my all in all!

[AreYouReady?]

Well...

After reading all the posts I know one thing, nobody is immune from hurt and each of us deal with hurt the best way we know at the time. We all feel alone during our time of pain and we all reach out for God.

Some of the hurts I've seen written are things I have been through myself and some of the hurts are hurts I pray I never experience.

No matter which account of hurt I've read, it brought a few tears to my eyes because I empathize with each and every one of you.

The hurts I've been through ... well no need in rehashing and some I'd rather forget, and yet other hurts still hurt. Yet there's nothing I can do about it. I used to cry because there was nobody there to help me with my hurts; nobody who understood how I felt. But now that God brought me through the past hurts, I see that there was not much that anybody could have helped me with...at least not in the way God has helped me. Most of the time God is the ONLY one who can help and heal the bad things that happen in our lives. Nobody knows you, the real you inside like our Savior does and He knows how to comfort in ways that will astound you.

When there were no arms to hold me, the Holy Ghost did.

[AreYouReady?]

Originally Posted by Bella1

I totally rely on God. Trust is a very hard thing for me right now. I get physically sick it trust is even an issue. I have a hard time talking with people now. I used to be so open and trusting. Not any longer. Hurts too much to trust too deeply.

But all in all, I have become a stronger more confident person who KNOWS beyond a shadow of a doubt that God love me regardless of what I have done and said. He is my all in all!

Bella, the one person that I've learned I can rely on IS God. People betray another's trust for various reasons. Most are weak. I speak for myself here in that learning to forgive is hard because I see those who have betrayed or rejected me laughing and seem to be popular and beloved in their crowd, while treating me as if I am scum of the earth because my point of view differs from theirs. Then there are the times I thought I have forgiven, then I see those who hurt me and those feelings come right back. It is a battle for many of us.

Right now tackling your emotions probably seems as big as an elephant, as well as the trust issue. I was once asked "How do you eat an elephant?" Answer: One bite at a time.

If the Lord is the only one you can trust right now, then trust the Lord Jesus only. When you are ready, Jesus will help you to reach out and trust others...one at a time. He knows your heart.

May God bless you.

[Falla39]

Originally Posted by Sarah

Oh Amanah....how my heart goes out to you! We too, lost a son, but it wasn't our only child. If it hasn't even been three years yet, you're still going through the 'fog'....that's the way I describe it, and I'm sure you know what I mean.

I've often said that I don't know how anyone can suffer a loss like that, and come out whole, if they don't know the Lord. Sometimes you just know in your heart that God is there, and cares, even when you don't feel a thing.
You are in my prayers and thoughts....

Sarah, the bolded is a profound statement! That is when we "walk by faith, and not by sight" or feeling. Perhaps that's when HE is carrying us!

After we lost our daughter, I just couldn't seem to get anywhere, until I got to the point of desperation. I told God, "LORD, if You will give me peace of mind, one day at a time, I will not question, but I will trust!". I may never understand, but I will trust You! HE did and I still do! I still trust You, LORD!

http://youtu.be/kzzyj0U1q-8

Falla39

[Cindy]

Originally Posted by Sarah

Oh Amanah....how my heart goes out to you! We too, lost a son, but it wasn't our only child. If it hasn't even been three years yet, you're still going through the 'fog'....that's the way I describe it, and I'm sure you know what I mean.

I've often said that I don't know how anyone can suffer a loss like that, and come out whole, if they don't know the Lord. Sometimes you just know in your heart that God is there, and cares, even when you don't feel a thing.

You are in my prayers and thoughts....

Praying for you.

[mfblume]

I went through a solid year in ministry where I experienced abuse as a pastor from a congregation. My hurt was completely dealt with by going to God, since I had no one else in the world to go to. Wow. Did God ever move. People talk about pastors abusing saints, but never stop to think sometimes pastors are abused by saints, too. I prayed about situations and saw prayers answered the VERY NEXT DAY, over and over again! People would come and make it right. What a time we had that year. I hope I never go through that kind of ordeal again.

[Cindy]

Originally Posted by mfblume

I went through a solid year in ministry where I experienced abuse as a pastor from a congregation. My hurt was completely dealt with by going to God, since I had no one else in the world to go to. Wow. Did God ever move. People talk about pastors abusing saints, but never stop to think sometimes pastors are abused by saints, too. I prayed about situations and saw prayers answered the VERY NEXT DAY, over and over again! People would come and make it right. What a time we had that year. I hope I never go through that kind of ordeal again.

Praise God, sometimes out of great hurt comes greater healing and victory.

[AreYouReady?]

Originally Posted by mfblume

I went through a solid year in ministry where I experienced abuse as a pastor from a congregation. My hurt was completely dealt with by going to God, since I had no one else in the world to go to. Wow. Did God ever move. People talk about pastors abusing saints, but never stop to think sometimes pastors are abused by saints, too. I prayed about situations and saw prayers answered the VERY NEXT DAY, over and over again! People would come and make it right. What a time we had that year. I hope I never go through that kind of ordeal again.

Far too often we forget that people in a church system can... and do gang up on Pastors. It's amazing at how fast God works when we fully give our problems to him isn't it?
I remember once at work, I was experiencing problems with my department head. I was so distraught at many of the things he was doing that I wanted him out of there! I did not feel right about praying him out of there in any destructive way, so I earnest prayed and asked God to give him a better job and move him out that way. I couldn't believe it when I went into work the next day. He made the announcement that he was stepping down from being department head to a job that he wanted!