Parenting: Money for good grades??

[Michael Phelps]

Originally Posted by Titus2woman

With five children, four of whom were gifted, paying for grades was a major expense for us. Ken (the Ph.D.) tested post high school on the Stanford in the sixth grade. Straight A report cards were common. I felt that money is a primary motivator for seekng the higher education and better employment that can affect one's entire life. I never wanted to see our boys struggle the way Don and I did with our 8th grade educations and many very hard jobs and it has has worked.

Ken's dissertation was on leadership. I am still reading it... but even I had no idea my kid was THAT smart.

Good for you and your husband, you obviously did something very right!!!!

We always paid our kids for A's and B's.......just like you, we never paid for C's. I think it's a great concept to prepare them for life. I get a bonus on my job if I get an A rating for performance, which is over and above my regular salary - why not do the same thing for our kids?

[AreYouReady?]

I did not pay my children for good grades, though I am not opposed for anybody else to do so.

I figured that since offering to pay them to do work around the house did not work well...

My oldest son likes to work with his hands and he likes mechanics...so he went and got an AS degree in Auto Mechanics. That was all the schooling he wanted.

My other son likes the finer things in life...so we told him he better make good grades and graduate with at least a BS degree. God willing ...that will happen in 3 weeks with a bio-chemistry major. Graduate school starts in one month.

[bbyrd009]

Originally Posted by AreYouReady?

...Graduate school starts in one month.

Woo-hoo! I am happy for you.
My parents promised money for grades, and then reneged; or forgot.
Same diff to a kid. The whole concept actually seems kind of ridic,
and I would prolly go with Timmy's method, lol.

Ha, so easy to postulate when you're childless.
If it took $100 an A to motivate a kid, I'd call it money well spent.
I might cry over the fact that it takes $ to motivate them--after graduation.

[AreYouReady?]

Thanks bbyrd. We are proud of his accomplishments. He is an honor student. I attribute his secret to staying in school and being an honor student is staying away from serious relationships with girls.

He even said that he doesn't want to marry until he accomplish his goals so....

[bbyrd009]

Originally Posted by AreYouReady?

Thanks bbyrd. We are proud of his accomplishments. He is an honor student. I attribute his secret to staying in school and being an honor student is staying away from serious relationships with girls.

He even said that he doesn't want to marry until he accomplish his goals so....

Ha, cool. I recently had this vision that the best time to have kids, counter to the way we do it, is when you're like, 60, lol.

[AreYouReady?]

I have noticed that so many young people do not seem to know the steps they should take when growing up. I've seen so many write on their Myspace that after graduation, they are going to live with their boyfriend, have a baby, then get married in a big wedding.

[AreYouReady?]

I was always taught the opposite.

The generation gap I had with my parents seem pale to today's generation gap.

[Jay]

I would not call it a generation gap but rather a morality gap.

[AreYouReady?]

Not all of my generation live by moral ideals.

We were the generation that burned bras, free love, Woodstock is a good example, having a good time in the bars and dance halls, drugs and alcohol. I'm afraid that many of our generation did not teach our children those needed morals. We were the detriment to our children. The sixties and seventies were volatile years with psychedelic music and visual "trips".

However, there are many of us who do teach our children, but peer pressure lures them away.

It is the grace of God that many young people do have morals and love God in this generation. I want them to grow up to be our leaders in this country and for God.

[Jay]

I agree with you entirely (missed the whole bra burning stunts by being born twenty years afterward).


I believe that the militant feminist movement is the reason that so many of our young men are gay. There have always been those who were homosexual, however they were far fewer than they are today. This rise also appears to correspond with the rise of militant feminists who claimed that men were the problem for everything that has ever occured. In fact, the militant feminist movement is very active in pushing the pro-homosexual agenda.