Kids who live at home but do not go to church

[Tim Rutledge]

Originally Posted by shawndell

I know by experience that you need a tight hold on these children be cause I have a daughter who is a backslider and maried to a drug addict,alcoholic that does not work. Ive got two grandsons and another grandchild on the way who are not being raised in church.The dad of my grandsons has the 3 year old afraid of the holyghost telling him that its bad to have the holyghost and when I take him to church he screams and wants to go home and the son in law laughs about it. SO PLEASE PRAY!!!!

Thats sad. We'll be praying. You may not see the results for awhile.. but your prayers will save your grand babies.

[electric.S10]

My bible tells me to grid up your loins and be a man . Well sometimes this is rough when it is your child , no doubt about it . However I let my son know in no uncertain terms this is my house my way or the highway . Sadly he is currently in a backslidden state . Yet there has been peace in my home since he left . He has also been questioning things about our new church home (the other one left the truth) . So I firmly believe it is the only option a good parent has , is to put down the law then don't back down NO MATTER what . My son will come back I am already seeing this . Sometimes they just have to fall flat of their face before they learn this really isn't worth it and it was much better in my father's house . Now someone stated what if they child was married ? Guess what in my book I have rules they know(knew) them .Therefore nothing changes .

[crakjak]

Set the rules.
Love them unconditionally.
Enforce the rules.
Love them unconditionally.
Let God change you.
Love them unconditionally.
Never ever stop praying for them.
Love them unconditionally.
Believe and trust the Lord to open their eyes, don't let the enemy destroy you by destroying relationship with your children.
Did I say love them unconditionally.
Hold them accountable, don't be afraid to ask the difficult questions.
And love them unconditionally.

[Jermyn Davidson]

Originally Posted by crakjak

Set the rules.
Love them unconditionally.
Enforce the rules.
Love them unconditionally.
Let God change you.
Love them unconditionally.
Never ever stop praying for them.
Love them unconditionally.
Believe and trust the Lord to open their eyes, don't let the enemy destroy you by destroying relationship with your children.
Did I say love them unconditionally.
Hold them accountable, don't be afraid to ask the difficult questions.
And love them unconditionally.

and when all that don't work, you can always stone them.

It worked in the Old Testament.



I'm just sayin.... you know, sometimes....







frying pans, cast iron skillets, big rocks, whatever it takes!

[RandyWayne]

OK, so what if your kid is paying rent?

I don't know of a whole lot of land lords who have a say on where (and how often) you are to go to church...........

Or have curfews............

[crakjak]

Originally Posted by Jermyn Davidson

and when all that don't work, you can always stone them.

It worked in the Old Testament.



I'm just sayin.... you know, sometimes....







frying pans, cast iron skillets, big rocks, whatever it takes!

There is no guarantee that it will work, but end result should not be hatred toward their parents and the Lord.

Having said that, I have four grown children and I believe it has worked.

[crakjak]

Originally Posted by RandyWayne

OK, so what if your kid is paying rent?

I don't know of a whole lot of land lords who have a say on where (and how often) you are to go to church...........

We have house rules, and they are not oppressive, but the objective is that they do not disturb the household, by coming and going at all hours. Since they are a part of the household, it was required that we let each other know if we would not be home, etc. They are responsible for doing laundry and kitchen duty once a week.

Of course there was also clear moral boundaries that were the values of the house, and nothing outside of those boundaries would be tolerated.

After they graduated from High School, they were welcome to live with us while they were going to college. We did not charge them room and board during the summer as long as they were full time students. They were responsible for their personal expenses, plus car, insurance and phone, we provided house and food.

After graduation from college they were to actively pursue employment, and after one summer they would then pay room and board.

One son was married by then and our daughter is getting married one year after finishing her nursing degree. My youngest son will graduate in December 2009, and he has meet a girl, so we shall see.