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[RandyWayne]

Originally Posted by ForeverBlessed

Good luck. My older sister who never married, adopted a little boy from Russia when he was three. I think he is 7 now, quite adorable. She will be in her 60's when he graduates High School. not for me. lol

This is the major reason my wife and I decided to not have any (among other reasons), was our age when we got married. We didn't want to start with a newborn in our late 30's..

[missourimary]

I would prefer to adopt a school aged child. Not ever being married isn't for me either (any more than not having children late), but some things we don't have a choice in. For a long time, I was told to wait, that the right man would come along. I did, he didn't. I'd be in my 50s when a child graduated, but that is really not so uncommon anymore. Not having a child at all would be much sadder for me than adopting one later in life. Ideally I would have liked to marry in my early or mid 20s and had two kids by 30. Didn't happen. Oh, well. My sister is supportive of the idea, which helps, and my family's general life expectancy is around 90-100, so I'll still have quite a few "good years" after a child grows up, even now. And I'm more stable and mature now than I would have been then. I've also experienced many things in my 20s and 30s that most people have to wait to experience in their 50s, after the kids graduate. It pretty much all balances out, eventually.

[dizzyde]

I have one daughter, I achieved perfection the first time, so I stopped!

She has been the true joy of my life, I call her my sunshine child.

[ForeverBlessed]

Tick tac Toe, three in a row.... I have three girls, and that is more than enough for me.

[ForeverBlessed]

Originally Posted by RandyWayne

This is the major reason my wife and I decided to not have any (among other reasons), was our age when we got married. We didn't want to start with a newborn in our late 30's..

I can understand that, I wouldn't want to do that either. Mine were born in my early/mid twenties. I will be able to enjoy some life here soon.

I was born in my parents late 30's, my brother in their early 40's. My father passed 10 years ago and my mother is in end stage alzheimers. I wish I had my parents longer. I will say that we were raised different than our three older sisters as they were more financially secure, probably more patient, but often our sisters took care of us which helped them out. Still, I wouldnt want to have kids that late.

[ForeverBlessed]

Originally Posted by dizzyde

I have one daughter, I achieved perfection the first time, so I stopped!

She has been the true joy of my life, I call her my sunshine child.

She is very pretty.

[dizzyde]

Originally Posted by ForeverBlessed

She is very pretty.

Thanks! Yours are as well, three beautiful girls!

[ForeverBlessed]

Originally Posted by missourimary

I would prefer to adopt a school aged child. Not ever being married isn't for me either (any more than not having children late), but some things we don't have a choice in. For a long time, I was told to wait, that the right man would come along. I did, he didn't. I'd be in my 50s when a child graduated, but that is really not so uncommon anymore. Not having a child at all would be much sadder for me than adopting one later in life. Ideally I would have liked to marry in my early or mid 20s and had two kids by 30. Didn't happen. Oh, well. My sister is supportive of the idea, which helps, and my family's general life expectancy is around 90-100, so I'll still have quite a few "good years" after a child grows up, even now. And I'm more stable and mature now than I would have been then. I've also experienced many things in my 20s and 30s that most people have to wait to experience in their 50s, after the kids graduate. It pretty much all balances out, eventually.

wish you all the best in adopting. If you are planning on doing this oversees, I hope that you are saving for this as it is not cheap. I am glad you have family that is supportive, my sister had her family in support. Another sister of mine is the self appointed second mom to our children, as I've raised mine alone for 7 years now.

[RandyWayne]

Originally Posted by ForeverBlessed

I can understand that, I wouldn't want to do that either. Mine were born in my early/mid twenties. I will be able to enjoy some life here soon.

I was born in my parents late 30's, my brother in their early 40's. My father passed 10 years ago and my mother is in end stage alzheimers. I wish I had my parents longer. I will say that we were raised different than our three older sisters as they were more financially secure, probably more patient, but often our sisters took care of us which helped them out. Still, I wouldnt want to have kids that late.

Also, the health risks sky rocket for women as they get older. In particular once they get into their 40's. Mrs Dugger is a prime example.

[OnTheFritz]

We are 36, and this new one is our last. Part of me wishes I'd had kids younger, but I was also (more of) an idiot when I was younger. Plus, my wife and I didn't marry till late twenties.