Marriage is give and take

[Theresa]

give and take...


I've taken about all I can take

Originally Posted by Theresa

give and take...


I've taken about all I can take

Does that mean you are now ready to begin giving?

[Theresa]

Originally Posted by PaPaDon

Does that mean you are now ready to begin giving?

all I do is give

tyvm

[Trouvere]

Sixteen years and you never yelled once at each other? And you tell her you love her and she is beautiful daily??? Where did she buy you Sears and Roebuck? Or is it the PROZAC in you coffee????
Wow I have to admit we are human and we argue and we get mad and we
make up and we forgive.Its called life.We get disapointed and sometimes
fail in the eyes of the other but we keep going on.Its an adventure.
One day we won't be around for each other.Marriage does not continue after death.
Yesterday we found out one of our friends died.He was in his forties.Life is short.We also wheeled one of our friends to the altar for prayer.She developed a neuro disorder and is wheelchair bound and a shell of the person
she once was.
Love beareth all things.

Great to hear that! You had me worried. hehehehe

[Digging4Truth]

Originally Posted by Trouvere

Sixteen years and you never yelled once at each other? And you tell her you love her and she is beautiful daily??? Where did she buy you Sears and Roebuck? Or is it the PROZAC in you coffee????

It is a decision we made.

It wasn't the easiest thing at first but by now it is just the way we live. It is second nature now.

And yes... I do tell her those things daily. Why not? It's the truth...

Habits are created. It is my habit as well as hers but it isn't habitual to the point of being rote. What we say we mean but we have made it a daily thing to do so.

When "little things" like that are lost then a whole new set of habits begin to form. I think we'll stick with the ones we have now.

[King's Child]

Originally Posted by stmatthew

I was speaking to a gentleman a few days ago on this subject, and he said that he had interviewed a man married for over 40 years, and asked him the secret. This old man stated that Most people state that marriage is a 50/50 deal. But he said that isn't really true. A real relationship is 90 to 100% give on both sides.

I would say that this is correct. Christ gives his all for his bride, and his bride forsakes all to follow him. 100% giving with nothing held back.

I totally agree with you. Sometimes the wife gives 90 to 100% and sometimes the husband gives 90 to 100%. God gives to us without expecting anything in return. He doesn't keep record either. I think a husband and wife need to do the same. Do for each other simply because you love each other. Not because you are wanting something in return.

I'm not saying it is always easy but it is for the best.

[Hoovie]

Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

My wife and I have been married for nearly 16 years and we have never raised our voice at one another.

We decided from the beginning that everyone has someone in their lives that they have such a level of respect for that they would never raise their voice at them... and then we deemed each other as one of those people.

We refuse to speak ill of one other in front of others. Neither of us are perfect but you will never hear us speak ill of one another. We handle our differences amongst ourselves.

My wife has actually lost friends because she would not join in on the husband bashing that was going on.

That not only helps keep our private issues out of public discussion but it also affects the way you see someone when you never speak ill of them. It fosters a more respectful relationship.

My wife is my very best friend and we do everything together.

Marriage is work... no doubt about that...

But with a proper alignment of attitude toward the house, the kids, each other, how you are going to respond, how you are going to present one another to others etc it is far less work than some make it.

Never let a day pass without telling her you love her. It reminds both of you lest you forget.
Never let a day pass without telling her how beautiful she is. It keeps that fact fresh in both of your minds.
Don't ever stop shaking your head in awe when she walks through the room. It reminds you both that she is highly appreciated and adored.

I found the scripture that said Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

Well friends... I have not only found a wife... but a good wife... not only a good wife... but a great wife and that, in itself, is favour of the Lord in my eyes.

Someone asked her one time if I she was jealous of another person for some reason... she said "Naw... he's got a good thing and he knows it... he ain't going anywhere"

She's got that right... and I am glad that she knows it too.

WOW! This is the kewlest post. You need to get a soapbox!

[Trouvere]

Originally Posted by Stephen Hoover

WOW! This is the kewlest post. You need to get a soapbox!

You believe him?

[Hoovie]

Originally Posted by Trouvere

You believe him?

Well I guess I have no reason not to. I do know a few other couples who say they have NEVER raised their voice against the other. I have noted though that these personalities don't raise their voice much at all and are generally very meek, softspoken people.